I am 25 years old and just graduated from University (first degree). I studied my degree in my country which I couldnt stand to live in, had no friends whatsoever and went travelling every chance I had during Uni break offs. During my Uni years I therefore never settled in where I was and I always longed for other places. The issue which now very much have come alive is that I feel a great urge to go everywhere that I have wanted to go and live during my studies where I was bound to live somewhere I didnt like to be. Apart from the issue of wishing to be and live in several different countries all at the same time, the moment I graduated my degree I senced a strong feeling within me to settle down, to build personal relationships with people and to meet a special someone which could be built upon and potentially turn into a serious relationship. But some of the places I wanted to go for a long time is not a place I am planning to stay in permanently.
Now I find myself torn in between wishing to travel and experience the freedom to travel which I didnt have during my years in Uni, my wish to do further studies (temporary again) for a short while in a place that Id eventually plan to leave, whilst all the while planning my permanent move (migration in a different continent than my own), which realistically and potentially could turn into failure/nonacceptance for whatever reason (probably lack of work experience).
Im looking at my plans and all in all it looks fine and exciting but one very basic need terrifies me and on the inside of me is crying out for my attention... it is the great need for settlement and a place to call "home", regularity in terms of a stable job and people around me, good personal relationships/friendships, and a potential boyfriend which is more than just 'temporary'.
During my short term travels in between Uni breaks I always met boyfriends, but which every time broke into heartbreaks. The feeling of having to leave someone behind that I had built something with and worked on was absolutely horrible. I hate the guts of this feeling.
Now looking into my temporary plans here and there, I worry worry worry. Am I ever going to be able to sustain a normal relationship? Am I ever going to get married, have kids? Am I ever going to be able to build my friendships? Should I leave my career move behind and get over and done with this travelling, or should I try to settle down for a while and then do the travel... In my mind I then see no point in building relationships with people that I very soon will need to leave behind for traveling and migration purposes.
I just feel lost, and very, very alone in all these decisions right now.
Any feedback would be much appreciated. Thank you