I'm unsure what too do.

Okay well, ever since I've been with this girl, I've always suspected her of cheating, and I have caught her more than once. She went naked on webcam with a few different people. One in the same town, two in different towns.

Then we took a month break, and she said she'd change so I gave her another chance, and I am allowed to go on her facebook whenever, I was going to go on and do the typical "Hacked" thing, I noticed she had a message in her inbox I just clicked it too make it go away but it was from a guy saying "I miss you too" so I clicked it, and she said, "Hey, I miss you we should cam sometime or hangout" And her version of caming with a guy is usually doing "Stuff" ... So I am really unsure of what too do. ALL my friends say break up with her, but I simply can't.... I've tried many times before, but I literally cannot. Everytime I try I always cave and say I never meant it, blah blah blah... And I can never say it in person or anything and I am scared if I do break up with her, she will attempt suicide again. When we took our break she drank bleach and was rushed too the hospital... So I am really unsure on what too do. So can someone please tell me what I should do? I just don't want too be in this anymore if she's going to do this too me. She say's it's because she think's I'm cheating on her... But I'm not like that... I despise cheaters..So I don't know..

It is certainly not your fault if she decides to threaten or attempt suicide if you break up with her for your own self. If need be, you can contact her family or friends to make sure she doesn't hurt herself. The police as well. The choice to take her own life is hers, not yours.

Every time you got back with her, how did you feel? what happened to your sense of integrity? (i.e. how did you feel about yourself?) you said you hate cheaters, and yet... you're willing to make an exception for this girl. How does that make you feel?

secondly, how realistic do you think your interpretation of events has been? can you talk to her about this man she's been talking to?

I'm also interested to hear, what you are willing to put up with in a relationship with her. I'd like to hear about what actions will result in you deciding to break up with somebody (her, or an imaginary girlfriend). Are you prepared and willing to stick to what you would put up with? what are you going to do if those lines are crossed?

Can you actually see this relationship going somewhere?

People can change, but they don't change a lot. She has let you down time and time again and what is important is that if she did really care enough about you she would have not done what she has done.

This girl is selfish! She is with you to satisfy her own needs to not be on her own, and she knows she can get away with doing what she wants with other people because you're a push over and won't dump her. So you allow her to treat you badly.

Drinking the bleach is another selfish act, and a way to hurt you. You are not responsible for her and her actions. It sounds like she needs to grow up and stop acting like a child, and she shouldn't be in a relationship until she is ready to understand that relationships are give and take, that they are not based around using someone for your own gains.

I would say get out, cut all contact and get on with your life. Then you can meet someone who will actually treat you right. While you are with this girl you will never meet the person you are meant to be with. You should be happy in a relationship, and it sounds to me that you are far from happy. Why do you put yourself through this?

I went out with a guy who treat me badly for 3 years. He cheated on me repeatedly. Granted he had NPD (he didn't know) but he never would have changed. 3 years of being manipulated, cheated on, treat like rubbish took it's toll. It was some of the worst years of my life and I am angry that I wasted so much time on this person that so wasn't worth my time at all.

I know it is hard, it took me a long time to get to the place where I could let this person go. Starting a new job and meeting new people helped, and one day I woke up and thought "I'm not going to be treated in this way anymore, I don't want it!!!!!" and I never saw him again. It was the best decision of my life. Although people are telling you to get rid, it can only come from you. You need to be strong enough to do it. I think deep down you know that this isn't right, that you aren't happy. We hang on because we want the person to change, we think one day it might just get better and then the relationship will be perfect. We think that if we just do one more little loving thing, that will be the thing that will make the person treat us better. But it never happens! If you stay with this girl, she will carry on camming with other guys, carry on flirting with other guys, carry on cheating all because she can. If a friend turned round to you and told you the story you've told us, how would you feel and what would you say? Would you tell your friend to stay and put up with it?

Good luck, and remember. You can be strong and you will go on to better things, but only if you stop letting this girl drag you down!

She seems to have Narcissistic tendencies; I have been in relationships with many of those and i think that this may be the case. It may be a bit of a relief although it might not be a comfort to hear that when she's fooling around with other boys, she is not exactly looking for anything deep, or love...it seems she needs a constant feeding of her ego and there is no bigger spoonful to that than to have someone make her feel attractive and wanted. She might be addicted to this feeling because it feeds her ego, it makes her feel worth something and strong, when in reality she may be very weak, which is how it tends to be. It is a really difficult situation you are in though and my heart goes out to you because i truly know what it's like to be in this situation, I have gone down this road far too many times, but i can be thankful i am still alive even though it left scars on me.

I might suggest one thing: what if you showed her more attention yourself, made her feel loved and wanted and accepted? Don't go completely overboard so that it's obvious, but show her that you are there for her and that she is not worthless. She may have this big fault, but let her know about her other virtues. She doesn't have to do this. But if it keeps going this way forever, i say protect yourself and leave. it will hurt to leave, but it hurts so much to stay...bear the blow to your heart for only a little while and you will thank yourself for what you did. You will feel free, and thankful, and wiser for your next relationship whenever you are ready. Much love.

Gertrude_the_Gump wrote:She seems to have Narcissistic tendencies; I have been in relationships with many of those and i think that this may be the case. It may be a bit of a relief although it might not be a comfort to hear that when she's fooling around with other boys, she is not exactly looking for anything deep, or love...it seems she needs a constant feeding of her ego and there is no bigger spoonful to that than to have someone make her feel attractive and wanted. She might be addicted to this feeling because it feeds her ego, it makes her feel worth something and strong, when in reality she may be very weak, which is how it tends to be. It is a really difficult situation you are in though and my heart goes out to you because i truly know what it's like to be in this situation, I have gone down this road far too many times, but i can be thankful i am still alive even though it left scars on me.

I might suggest one thing: what if you showed her more attention yourself, made her feel loved and wanted and accepted? Don't go completely overboard so that it's obvious, but show her that you are there for her and that she is not worthless. She may have this big fault, but let her know about her other virtues. She doesn't have to do this. But if it keeps going this way forever, i say protect yourself and leave. it will hurt to leave, but it hurts so much to stay...bear the blow to your heart for only a little while and you will thank yourself for what you did. You will feel free, and thankful, and wiser for your next relationship whenever you are ready. Much love.

I have always given her plenty of attention, always bought her things even when I couldn't afford it, and just randomly at that. I'd buy her dinner all the time, buy her nice clothes, or stuffies, and I'd always be with her, quite literally. I was with her almost 24/7, and she seemed happy but I guess not. And I'd always ask her whenever something was wrong and try to help, I've always told her I was there for her and supported her. And honestly I just don't get what I am doing wrong.

So as of the moment I am so unsure of what too do. I am supposedly going over there tonight for a sleepover but I don't know I act all happy and everything but inside, I really am not happy at all. I am just that slightest bit, because I am with someone, because I want to believe I am loved. But honestly, I just don't know.

Another thing, remember how first post I mentioned she was talking to two guy's in edmonton, and went on webcam naked and stuff? Yeah, well she just re-added this guy on Facebook, when I questioned her she said "What? When? I never meant too" and he is still yet to be removed and blocked. As this was the deal of me even getting back together with her after the break. Is that she wouldn't speak to him again and I would see if she would change but honestly, she hasn't changed, at all yet.