Not an emotionnal relationship problem

SInce I can't find where "A strong dislike for any physical contact with other humans" goes, I'm gonna post it here.

So, yeah, I am really hating to get touched anywhere. I mean, apart from me, only my cat can touch me (Alright, this is starting to sound weird). So, is there a name for Depreciation of physical contact and also how come this happens even tough I was never abused physically?

Hi there Barlakopofai,

I don't think that's an uncommon problem, but it probably has more than one cause.

People on the autistic spectrum often seem to be hypersensitive to touch. You may like to stop by the Asperger's forum and post a question there to see what they have to say on the subject.

There was a thread on physical contact in the Avoidant forum a while back with a mixed bag of responses - both those who craved and disliked being touched.

Do you know what it is exactly that you hate about being touched? Do you hate other forms of contact or communication with people? How do you feel if you are the one doing the touching (e.g. you tap someone on the shoulder or give them a hug)? Can you think of any scenarios where you might like to be touched?

No scenario I'd like to be touched in, I hate touching too, I like talking and communicating with other people, but no physical contact.

Okay. I'm going to ask you some more questions...not because I can diagnose you with anything, but because I hope it may help you to understand what you are experiencing. Answer as many or as few as you like.

So how do you go with other sensations? Like bright lights, or those high-pitched electrical humming noises? Are there other everyday things that bother you, or is it just human touch?

How do you feel about touching animals, like patting a dog?

Or touching inanimate things like velvet fabric? Or a feather?

Do you feel lust or sexual desire? If so, do you fantasise about having sexual contact with another person or persons?

You say you like talking with others. Are you a social person? Do you have friends and family you talk to?

Were you touched as a kid? What I mean is was your family physically affectionate - did they hug and kiss you? If so, do you remember how it made you feel?

That doesn'tbreally bothers me
I don't have aproblem with it
Same as up
No
Not social, I have about a dozen of friends I talk to

Hi there,
about this touching issue thing..

Is their a specific person that you dont like touching,hugging,feeling on you?
IF yes,maybe you don`t trust them? ..-Think about this
1> So.. why is it that you don`t trust them..?
2> How can you get pass this so you can feel comfortable when they show affection towards you..?

AFFECTION IS LOVE,CARING,NURTURING;GREAT FEELING.

Is this issue thing even with mom and other family members?
IF yes, maybe you`re just not an affectionate type of person, and that`s fine!
Or
What is that you have not got resovled with your family,..?
..Speak now so you can move on..

Is this something everybody is aware of? Or you just know about this?
Is this something that you feel might be mental,emotional,physical or sexual?
All of the above..?
ok,
Love starts within you,When you truly love yourself..you`re gonna wanna show that to others and feel like it..
Regardless of how affectionate or non-affectionate your immediate family was or was not.. You are the one that has the POWER to change you life.

Start Now

I hope I helped you out..
xo
Much love to you

Hi there,
about this touching issue thing..

Is their a specific person that you dont like touching,hugging,feeling on you?
No
IF yes,maybe you don`t trust them? ..-Think about this
1> So.. why is it that you don`t trust them..?
2> How can you get pass this so you can feel comfortable when they show affection towards you..?
I can't, but I an pretend so they don't feel offended
AFFECTION IS LOVE,CARING,NURTURING;GREAT FEELING.

Is this issue thing even with mom and other family members?
Not my mother, but yes
IF yes, maybe you`re just not an affectionate type of person, and that`s fine!
Or
What is that you have not got resovled with your family,..?
My father used to hit me when he was pissed, but that'snot unresolved
..Speak now so you can move on..

Is this something everybody is aware of? Or you just know about this?
Some random people who I told it too
Is this something that you feel might be mental,emotional,physical or sexual?
Mental, sexual and maybe physical
Mental is a sure thing
Emotionnal is out because I don't feel much apart for happiness and anger
Physical is a maybe, I can't be sure since I avoid all physical contact
Sexual, because I am asexual
All of the above..?
ok,
Love starts within you,When you truly love yourself..you`re gonna wanna show that to others and feel like it..
It's not a self-esteem problem; I came here only out of curiosity; I like knowing stuff, especially about meRegardless of how affectionate or non-affectionate your immediate family was or was not.. You are the one that has the POWER to change you life.

Start Now

I hope I helped you out..
You just rambled about a self-esteem problem and family issues
xo
Much love to you

I want to get you passed this time in your life..
I hope talking will help you figure out what you are trying to understand and overcome I know this is an issue thing that other people go through in their daily lifes too..

..I send this people endless love and abundance to create what they want in their lifes and not fear change..& so it is
I..send this people a vibration of an amazing touch of wholeness.

You need to trust the inner child inside of you and ask the universe for security because you are safe,this is a safe world were in.
So give it hugs back,love back,companionship,happiness,wisdom..and everything that you are blessed with.

When you feel like something is not safe,nevermind it.
Rember to see the light,always.

Always think positve!
XO.

I want to get you passed this time in your life..
I hope talking will help you figure out what you are trying to understand and overcome I know this is an issue thing that other people go through in their daily lifes too..
No they don't, they go through birth,life,death... It is not sure they go through childhood, adulthood and other random etc.

..I send this people endless love and abundance to create what they want in their lifes and not fear change..& so it is
I..send this people a vibration of an amazing touch of wholeness.
This person or these people?

You need to trust the inner child inside of you and ask the universe for security because you are safe,this is a safe world were in.
It's not a trust issue
So give it hugs back,love back,companionship,happiness,wisdom..and everything that you are blessed with.


When you feel like something is not safe,nevermind it.
That's against what I have done up to now
Rember to see the light,always.
If I didn't see light, I would be blind
Always think positve!
XO
You sound like a wannabe psychiatrist who has failed and is now trying to find happiness by providing other people with diagnostics and comfort

Hey Barlakopofai,

Some more questions:

How do you feel about people in general?

You said you have friends. What makes them your friends? How do you feel about them?

How would you describe yourself in a couple of sentences?

And have you looked around the other forums here?
I'd try exploring and reading other people's posts. See if anything resonates with you. If you can relate to other users here, you may be able to pinpoint the reasons for what you are experiencing.

Barlakopofai wrote:You sound like a wannabe psychiatrist who has failed and is now trying to find happiness by providing other people with diagnostics and comfort

I think smile- is kindly trying to help you with your question. Perhaps he/she has quite a different personality to you, so the way he/she would tackle the problem is different to what will work for you?

There are many users on here who take the time to try to help others with their problems. Most are not professional psychologists or psychiatrists, but just everyday people (some with their own psychological issues.) That doesn't mean they think they are professionals or believe they know what's best...some truly want to help, especially if they have received help from others. Does that make sense, or does it sound silly?