Is he lying?

It sounds like he might be sincere as to wanting to make your relationship work. But the one thing that struck me as having red flags is you saying that you don't trust him. Relationships are built on trust. Once you have lost that, no matter how much you love someone, the relationship is worth nothing. Go out more! I am not a very social person either, but I have found that going out with my boyfriend alone or with friends has helped make me more relaxed and happy. Plus, if you see the way that he is with his friends it might ease your mind that he is not cheating on you. Follow your heart! Good luck

Sometimes people want so much that they end up with nothing. I think that's the risk you are running here and that you may be close to that point.

I think you are asking exactly the wrong question when you ask if you should leave him. Instead I think you should be asking how you can get over your jealousy of his friends before it destroys your relationship.

It sounds to me like he really wants to be with you, and that he's really stood by you. You've put him in an unrealistically tough situation by insisting that he give up his friends.

It's hard to say if he has cheated on you by now or not. But if he hasn't yet, it's only a question of time until he does, UNLESS you give up your insistance on controlling his relationship with his friends.

Think which you'd rather have. Have him in your life and let him have his friends, or have him out of your life and let him have his friends. I think those are your only two choices. I don't think the choice have him in your life, but keep him away from his friends is more than a temporary option.

However, once you let him have his friends back, without any interference from you then he no longer has any reason to lie. If he does lie to you after that point then don't put up with it. But that's only after you let him have his friends with no interference from you.

I agree wholly with itsme2003, and his advice to you.

I was in a relationship once with a woman for quite some time, and found myself lying when she would pressure me about whether my ex-wife had called my home (she did, occasionally, not to chat with me, but because the kids wanted to talk to me). My girlfriend was so jealous and insecure that she felt threatened by my ex-wife, despite how awful my ex-wife treated me and the fact that I rarely ever saw my ex-wife, except to exchange the children.

I was good to this girlfriend, very in love with her, sensitive and very supportive of her. But I found myself lie rather than have to deal with a tirade from her over something that was really nothing, but which in her mind was amplified into a big deal.

It sounds like you may be alienating your boyfriend.

There are people who have a habit of cheating, repeatedly, and you have to be wary for these, but unless your boyfriend is one of these, and I have the impression that he is NOT, you should get some counseling, give him some space and trust, and maybe even see someone together to talk about this issue in your relationship.