boyscout

My girlfriend and I have been going out for about half a year. We became very emotionally close very fast. I have been accepted enthusiastically by her family and friends with whom I also have strong bonds. Within the past 2-3 months my situation has changed and I don’t know how to deal with it. First of all she started taking birth control pills for acne and menstrual regulation but it has driven her sexual desire to a halt. As many of you know sex (or varying degrees leading up to) a very important source of bonding for a couple. I believe with the whole maintenance sex idea, but it has just not been happening. I have tried everything. The last time I got anything more than a good bye peck was Valentines Day. Even then it wasn’t much and I had saved money for a month to make that special for her. Because we bonded so fast, our relationship also went very fast. We had some big bonding moments, but we did not have as many bonding moments as some other couples out there who have been going out many years. Recently though I have not felt as appreciated as I did earlier in the relationship. Not only has her sexual desire gone down recently, but she has also recently been socially paying less attention to me. I have also been getting more romantic prospects from other women who see me doing romantic things for her. Just last night I went to a concert she was performing in. I got dressed up real nice (I mean rrreeeaaallllllyyy nice) and brought her a boquet of roses and two girls, that we both knew, came up to me and said they wished their boyfriends would get dressed up and gel their hair and bring them flowers. Then they gave me that kind of look that meant I could steal them away anytime (not that i would). I am very loyal to my girlfriend but it has been hard for me. I have been feeling very unappreciated lately and have felt myself stray because we haven’t had as many bonding experiences to start with and because of the problems we have been having sexually. I have been thinking of breaking up with her for the past few weeks. I don’t know what to do. I am planning on talking with her about it tomorrow night. Please send me any suggestions about what to do and or how to bring it up.