I cheated and now Im SO paranoid

I cheated on my boyfriend three years ago and we are perfectly fine and happy as ever now but deep inside Ive become so insecure and paranoid hes doing something not something physical because he does whatever he can to make me happy and show he cares like leaving me surprise treats or notes anyhow I keep thinking about him fantasizing about other girls just stuff like that its ridiculous but its eating me away all the time to where I'm pushing him away for no reason. I assume these are some consequences of cheating no matter how long its been. How do I deal with this, I've never been so insecure in my life.

Hey,

I understand your thoughts, but I don't believe that they are a consequence of 'cheating' for everyone who has done it. Some can live happily with the thoughts, while they tear others apart. Think of it as merely a relationship problem that needs discussing - i.e. with your partner. Whenever a problem of any nature arises, it must be tacklrd immediately, because otherwise it will 'fester' in your mind and will grow in it's magnitude. i'm sure that this particular issue has already grown substantially.

Just arrange some time with your boyfriend so that you can both sit down to talk. Don't leave the conversation until you both agree on how to take things further. I'm sure he has noticed a change in your behaviour recently, and you should by all means let him know what's been bothering you.

Kevin

Does he know you cheated on him or not?

Theives are always afraid they'll be stolen from. Not that I'm saying you're comparable to a theif. You arent. Just, the analogy is similar I think.