How to cope with one sided love?

The Truth will set you free, but first it will knock the wind out of you.

I love this quote...it's so true!

Funny thing is, we get the wind knocked out of us because we breathe. Stunt people exhale before a landing, it prevents the pain.
I see this as a metaphor for life. We can lead our life, metaphorically not breathing-not being, but doing. If we breathe, we experience pain. Pain is a teacher that leads to deeper understanding and growth. Personally I would rather experience pain and grow, than be numb and ignorant. That painful growth can lead to freedom. Truley BREATHING.
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What a beautiful post OBG, and so true.

I had a lot of pain growing up, which I know matured me well beyond my years. In fact pain not only makes you breathe, it also develops risk taking. I'm a HUGE risk taker, even in the eyes of fear. I don't always land safely, but I do land: sometimes bruised but it's a bit like a face lift. Suffer the bruises, but come out looking more beautiful. To be honest, pain is priceless!!

I think it was Honda's founder who said, "99% failure = success".
He is so right

PS...no I haven't had a face lift. I'm being severely talked out of it by my friends. Lol. Even one surgeon who I went to see said it's way too early for me. Phew.

Well, I have certainly learned a few things. I never knew I was so fragile emotionally. I know now how painful love can be and how easily it can take over.

Hi YAG...yes you're absolutely right. Love IS painful but it's only painful because of a lack of inner strength. When you feel good about yourself, then you want to give to the other instead of taking. For example, jealousy is about 'taking', not giving.

A good sense of self = giving.
A poor sense of self = taking.

Make no mistake, we all have needs so of course we take, but the difference is, we don't suck emotional energy from the other to top up what in fact is our responsibility. In other words, if you're needy, then you place unrealistic expectations on your partner: you demand that s/he gives you what you can't give to yourself. Feeling good about yourself has to come from within you. It's unhealthy and unrealistic to put that responsibility onto the other. Jealousy is about insecurity and insecurity is about not feeling sure of where you're placed or who you are. Insecurity is a lack of certainty, both metaphorically and literally.

Having said this, you may have inner strength but the person you love doesn't. THIS will definitely create pain. Both parties need inner strength to remove game playing which leads to pain. YES love does take over, it's about vulnerability but this is needed in order to reach freedom and happiness.