sadness

I feel so terribly sad because the man I love and I can never be together. I have to let the past go and everything we had but I cant i feel so sad and i cant move on

it is so sad when 2 people who love each other emmensly cannot be together. why is the reason that you cant?

I agree, it is very sad. What you wrote really rings a bell with me. I have found a person who completes me, who can finish my sentences, knows when to support me and when to give me space, who can always make me laugh, with whom I can always be myself and never have to worry about it. He likes a lot of the same things but also has a personality of his own. He is truly my kindred spirit. Yet, the way things are we could never be together, either. And letting go seems impossible.

What has helped me is the realization that I will do anything for him to be happy--even step aside and let him work things out with his family. It hurts that I was too late in meeting him, but at the same time it is a wonderful thing to know him, and that is something to hold on to.

Hang in there, it will work out, somehow.

These types of relationships, and their accompanying powerful emotions, are simply one of life's hardest challenges.

Remember this: there are millions of people out there, and even when you narrow it down using compatibility criteria, there are still hundreds of people with whom you, potentially, could have this same kind of relationship.

If this current person cannot be with you, value them and respect the reasons that you cannot be together, but most importantly get closure. Agree with this person that you cannot be together, and that continuing to talk/see one another is merely causing emotional distress.

Get into counseling, and give yourself time through that support and professional advice to regain your emotional equilibrium. Then you can, at your own pace, continue the search. There are those out there who are like this one that you cannot have. And even though you think nobody else will ever look as good, feel as right, they can. It takes time for your head to clear and your emotions to settle.

I've been through all that.

And as stubborn as I am, I never wanted to believe the only word of advice I was given - "The best way to get over one man is to get under another". I refused to believe, but once I let time pass, and I let another near me, although my memories of him I still keep, I DID get over him (for the most part).