Any advice is appreciated

Hello, my name is Danielle and this is my first post. I am not bipolar, although my boyfriend is and I am in search of hope, and answers. Any advice is appreciated. Im 24, and the mother of a 3 month old. The father (my boyfriend) was taking Lexapro and Abilify but is now only taking Abilify as it is all he can afford. Since taking Abilify I believe his bipolar has gotten worse. He is also now saying that he is schizophrenic but he does not have auditory or visual hallucinations, so I believe he is saying that only to make me feel as though he has absolutely no control over his actions or behavior. I have tried everything I could think of to cure him, and realize now there is no "cure" Im instead looking for anything to to say to him when he goes through the episodes that may help him calm himself. He is suicidal at times, and has threatened me numerous times to kill himself, me, and my family. I told him today that we needed to take a break to work on ourselves seperately as I feel hes lost the motivation to get better and instead is using his illness as a scapegoat. He seems to think he will never get better, and will need to be locked away in a mental instituation, my mind wont let me believe this as this means there is nothing I can do. I do not know what to say, or what I can do to help get through to him. What hurts the most is we have a 3 month old son, and when we fight, he says he wants nothing to do with him..but when he is good, he shows our son much love and affection. He says the state (Fl) offers no free mental health programs, so he is on his own. If you have any advice, I would appreciate it, I am devestated by how things have been going, I just want to help him, and help our family. Thankyou.

Hi, desperatemother! I think it'd be best to look into it yourself and see if there would be any way for him to get help, maybe he just gave up or he's not being truthful. It's not impossible when you're depressed. Does he have any relatives that you trust? Maybe you could talk to them and figure out how to help him and give him support together. If he's abusive, you don't have to stay with him, even if he is ill, though.

Also, make sure that YOU are getting a lot of support. Don't spend all your time with him or focused on his problems. Make sure you're going out with friends and spending time with family. It's really easy to get sucked into the other person's world and lose yourself. As for helping him, maybe you can go to a doctor's appointment with him and talk to his doctor?