I'm in love

Hello, I am new here and I have several issues that I need some help with. I hope people here won't shoot me down for speaking of what troubles me, like some other people have on other websites.

The issue I am addressing in this thread, is my feelings for a woman. I am desperately in love with a woman. Now this may not seem strange, the circumstances are. The girl I am in love with is called Leanne, and she is from the videogame Resonance of Fate. Yes, she is from a videogame. Now do not get me wrong, I don't just lust or crush on her. I am really in love with her, like, desperately. I dream about her, I sleep with her picture, I fantasize about her and I write her songs. She is on my mind constantly. Friends I once had are no longer my friends over them calling me "stupid" or a "nutter" for feeling this way, example, my best friend I hit him with a beer bottle and broke his nose. This was about a month ago or so. And other similar situations have happened between other friends when they say bad about Leanne. Yes, another one my issues is anger management, but that's another story which I will discuss in another thread.

I need some advice on this. I fear I will hurt someone severely over her. I know I get some severe urges to murder and maim when I see people saying bad or sexual things about her on the internet or in real life. I had spent a year in a mental institute 5 years ago for similar thoughts and acting upon them.

I need some answers. I love this girl, and she is the one for me. Videogame or not, she is who I want to be with. Is this wrong? Is this bad? I have lost friends over her... and honestly, I don't care... I have chosen her above them. Is this a bad thing? Please, I need some help.

Hi dude,

I'm actualyl wondering which issue to address here - i.e. your love for this computer-game character or the fact that you smashed a bottle into your friend's face. You get my drift? Let's focus on the character, for now, but your control over yor anger might be something that you need to pay VERY close attention to. We cannot attack everyone who disagrees with us, can we?

I seriously doubt that you are the first male to develop a crush over a female computer-game character. You recall the hype over Lara Croft when Tomb Raider came out? I imagine that many fell in love with her, or at least enjoyed looking at her while playing the game itself. However, you are certainly not doing anything wrong here, and you aren't a 'bad' person. 'Love' is love, and we cannot help how we feel about someone, whether they are real or not. After all, how many of us fantasise about 'unreal' people in our heads? I'd argue that this is the same as what has happened to you. This computer game character symbolises a lot that you like in a girl, but what difference is your liking for her over the liking another male has for a girl he dreams-up in his own thoughts?

There's little wrong with you - apart from your anger issue - and in fact I'd encourage you to explore you 'love' for her more. Don't hold it back, because problems typically arise when we hold back our true emotions.

Kevin