Should this bother me?

I should add that in regards to my other post "Marriage and why he doesn't want to marry me" I talk about how mean and insensitive he can be and then in this post I talk about how kind and caring he is. I didn't see the bad side of him until we lived together, the insensitive man with a temper. While he does have this bad side 10% of the time, he is a wonderful man 90% of the time. I'm willing to take the bad with the good. He's not.

I don't see what so wrong with reading his texts. I can read my husbands if I want too, he can read mine if he wants too. A person with nothing to hide hides nothing. But I guess most people like to hold on to the idea of still having the freedom to hide something if they want too. But if a person really wants to hide something, wouldn't they go to more trouble to do so than as obvious a place as their phone? Whatever, its just My opinion.
I think if I was in your place I would feel disliked by him. Do you feel disliked or loved by this guy? Your not even married yet and your already having this kinda trouble? I don't think you two are a good fit at all. If you have to force something it will eventually break.
You may think you know His motives for texting her but how can you know hers? She may have had second thoughts about dumping him and is back for round two. I personally don't think that men and women can remain just good friends. One or the other always ends up feeling more for the other person. Tension builds, things get messy and end or...begin.
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If you had asked me that question about 4 months ago I would have that I absolutely don't feel like he loves me anymore and can't even stand me. I was miserable all the time because he was always mad at me and he was always mad at me because I was aways miserable. We had a big blow up and talked things out and things got, I thought, 100% better. We had another talk 2 weeks ago about how things have been since then in which he told me he loves me more than anything in the world and I'm his best friend. I believe that because things have been great. Although he does feel that I can still be too sensitive and still need to work on that. I honestly believe he loves me with all his heart. I just think he's very intolerant of other people having emotions that maybe he doesn't understand.

As for the girl texting him, I guess that's what I'm afraid of. I don't know her motives. Why is she getting in touch with him after all this time?

Just because he is attracted to you isnt going to stop him from having sex with his "friend".

I'm not worried about him having sex with her. He's not like that. He's more about feelings and an emotional connection than about just wanting to get someone in bed. He wouldn't even have sex with me until he was sure he wanted a relationship with me. And no, he's not gay. He's just not a typical guy. I think I'm worried that he'll decide she's a really cool girl and start hanging out with her again and fall madly in love with her or something. PLUS like I said, I'm pissed that he didn't tell me about it. Whatever....I'll just let it go and not think about it anymore.

You sound like Scarlette Ohara in gone with the wind. "Nevr mind I'll think about it tomorrow".
Sigh, I wish you well but I don't think this problem will go away by ignoring it.
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Thank you onebravegirl. I hope everything works out in the end . I guess time will tell.