some bad stuff going on

my boyfriends family have found out who i really am. i am a former killer and spent 10 years in psychiatric prison and been with my boyfriend 2 months now. met him shortly after been released. now his family hate me and think i am a danger to his children. i have mental health problems but i am stable and fine because of my medication. i am getting abuse from them and trying to get my boyfriend to leave me. my boyfriends ex the kids mum won't let the kids round unless im not there at the time. they think i will kill my boyfriend and 2 kids. i wouldnt. i was 14 at the time when i killed. im 24 now and fine.

Hi,

I think that they key here is your boyfriend. He will have to be the one to assure the others that you are a good partner. While/until he does this, you must continue to be the good person that you now are, and to not retort negatively to anything that the others do. They might eventually grow to respect you if they see that you are a person who has morals and who does what she wants, despite what others think. Be steadfast, headstrong, and get on with things. It won't be easy, but if you are sure about the relationship being right then stick with it.

Kevin

hes told them to accept me but they wont. fed up of the abuse im getting.

Aw babe, thats terrible! How did they find out? It would have been so much better if they found out much later on, after they had gotten to know you, or even not at all.
People just don't understand what you have been through. They feel fear and react. You can understand why though right?
I know you just want to move on and begin to make a new life for yourself, so maybe this can be your first opportunity to learn how to address peoples concerns. You were under treatment, is their any way you can get some sort of document saying that you are of No harm to anyone? Something that can be shown in your defense?
Have you sat down with the BF's family and tried to calmly explain what you have been through and who you are now?
I have no idea about all the details, but I hope things work out for your long term good.
Maybe taking a step back from Romance until you are more settled would be a good idea. Get to know your own wings so to speak.
I dunno, I just feel really sad for you.
Big Hug,
one

thank you for your reply. they found out from a friend of his. he had no right to say anything. yeah i tried to explain that i am different to what i was when i was 14. people change and get better. i will find out about documents to reassure them. \after years in a psychiatric prison and with lots of help as if i am going to kill again and end up back there.

puppyluva wrote:\after years in a psychiatric prison and with lots of help as if i am going to kill again and end up back there.

That's just the nature of people - i.e. they assume things about people without getting the facts. As soon as they learned of your past, they went ahead to form their own opinions about you, and those opinions are born from ignorance of your true present self. Be as patient and calm as you can be throughout this period, and i'm confident things will get better slowly.

Kevin

thank you kevin x and the other posters