Sex has become an annoying chore.

About a month ago I got put on Prozac and I think it might finally be the right medication for me. However, one of the side effects is a reduced sex drive. Before, my boyfriend and I would have sex almost every day (occasionally twice a day) and it wasn't a problem. He has a high sex drive and so did I. Now, it's nearly impossible to get me "in the mood." I continue to have sex with him the same amount as before... my reasoning is that it's not like I'm just laying there bored. Granted, it's not nearly as enjoyable as when I am in the mood, but it's still enjoyable. However, I find myself asking him if he's "going to cum" quite often (because I become almost... bored after too long).

I know I can say "no" but I feel like it's my responsibility to keep him satisfied and I'm afraid that if I don't, he'll find it elsewhere. I'm trying to accept that fact and tell him that I don't mind if he watches porn again as long as he doesn't let me see what kind he's watching (we had a huge argument because he was lying to me about watching porn and masturbating as well as a few other lies that we've since worked through) but still tell me the truth if I ask. But it's somewhat demeaning because I feel like I'm not enough (as far as sexually and attractiveness goes) because the women in the porn he watches, look nothing like me.

Is it wrong of me to have sex with him even if I'm not in the mood? And does anybody have any suggestions on how I can overcome my insecurities with him watching porn compared to his attraction to me?

I'd very much more appreciate any suggestions on how I can get my libido back while still staying on my medication! Ha, thanks!

-Emma

I can't comment on all your questions, but a couple I will.

What exactly is your point, the porn he watches the women look nothing like you. If you take that line of thought one step further, if a woman on the street makes him smile and she looks nothing like you, or if he laughs at a joke she cracks, or he actually is a human being and can connect with someone more than just yourself, what's the point exactly? I don't think that specifically makes him any less committed to any relationship the two of you share. If two people are together, does that mean everyone else should be cut off from any contact between the two of you? What about shopping, working, the blinders need put on? I don't know what exactly is right or wrong in this instance, just posing some questions for you to answer to yourself. I can kinda see why you may think it's demeaning especially if he lies about it, don't get me wrong on that one. I know guys that get overly jealous when their girl even talks to another guy. When you see that instance happening, how do you feel about it? Can you see through it and know they're being irrational? Or do you agree wholeheartedly and believe in the insecurities. No need to answer me, I suck with relationships.

Libido - I'm not too familiar with prozac, but I do know some meds side-effects include low libido, especially anti-psychotics. You can maybe try switching if that is the case.

Anyway, I hope you can ride smoothly over this rut (if it is a rut) and wish you the best.

I suppose what I was getting at was the concept of double-standards. I'm not saying that's what you're holding, I can't see the entire situation. But from what I've seen, once people enter a relationship, it becomes commonplace to hold a double-standard, hypocritical really. One side will make an argument on the other because of a certain scenario, but they themselves are guilty of it, so it stands to reason that they shouldn't be making the argument. Maybe this applies, maybe not, just something else to think about.

I feel the same way, and my boyfriend thinks that I'm not attracted to him anymore. It's not that I don't like or love him it's just the sex part that I don't care for. I think he thinks I'm gay, and I'm not. Reading all the different post in these forums, I think just about anyone who is or was in a relationship has double the problems of a "normal" relationship when dealing with mental illnesses.

I have a question for the forum. I'm a mother of five children, but one does not live with me. I'm in a relationship with an ex boyfriend in my past. In the past I cheated on him, I was like 19 I'm 31 now. I did not expect him to even stay with me the second time around, but he said that he wanted to be with, at the time I was pregnant with my second child. A year after my child was born we had a child together, and then a year later we had another child together. I never kept anything from him about all my kids having different daddies, and I told him I tried to commit suicide while with my ex husband. I was still married to him while we were together, but was legally separated. I got a divorce in 2009. My boyfriend has been through a lot with my manic and depressed episodes, and he the only father my kids know. Now he says he's leaving me because he tired of me always complaining. I don't demand or expect anything from him but what he tells me. I do get upset because I am unable to work, and is stuck inside the house with the kids all the time, and sometimes I ask if he can help me. Am I not suppose to ask him for help with the two kids that aren't his? Because he's saying that I don't appreciate what he does for me and my kids. He's always telling me "those are your kids" but he eats, sleep, and live in the same house as us. He says he wants to marry me, but he also says he's leaving at least 4 times out of a year, and never really leave. I feel like he's pushing me kill myself. I can't seem to please him anymore no matter what I do. He's always saying I don't try, and he always has remind me to do things like take my meds, or has to wake me up because I sleep hard after taking meds. I started taking medication a year after being with him, because I wanted to change, not only for him, but for my family, but now it seems like I'm walking on eggshells with him, and scared to say what's on my mind, because he will tell me I don't appreciate him, or that he's tired of dealing with my bi-polar. What do I do? I don't want him to leave because I have hardly no family, and I thought we were going to be together till the end. I take my meds, go on doctor visits, see councilors, and if he tells me I need to admit myself in the hospital, I go. I don't what else to do. I'm very depressed and want answers. I hate myself, I wish I was someone else, then maybe he'd stay if I wasn't so crazy. Does anyone have a solution, because I don't want to make a choice on what I should do, it always end up with me waking up in the emergency room, I tired of feeling like this. posting.php?mode=reply&f=131&t=53262#:crhttp://www.psychforums.com/posting.php?mode=reply&f=131&t=53262#y: