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18 Going On Extinct

Postby theargylepilot » Thu Jul 08, 2010 3:50 am

So I will be double posting this, once here, once in the child abuse forum. Whichever one is more valid you can feel free to keep and I don't mind if the other is deleted.

Here's the deal... quite a while ago I fell in love with a girl. Really, really deeply in love. I've never found anyone else that I cannot find any flaw in other than her. We were perfect together.

The problem is the girls parents are very religious, and that I am not. I respect their beliefs though and even attend church every week. I don't swear anymore, I never have done drugs, and I'm not trying to have sex with their daughter. Either way, one day my mom left the house. I have recently graduated and am 18, she is 17 and going into her senior year so... her parents still don't want us alone. My mom was leaving and she called to check to see if they were home so we could head there, they were. We took our time putting on our shoes and when her brother girlfriend drove by my car was alone in the drive way. She narked immediately.

The next day her father made me come over for a talk, it was a long and grilling talk about all of my flaws and shortcomings and it ended with him saying that I could no longer see his daughter. I went home and we were on AIM and we talked a lot of $#%^, she said that she wished she would just get kicked out... I told her that I'd gladly take her in. When she went to work, though, her brother read the conversation. When he showed his father, his dad left immediately to go to her work. When he got there he saw me and informed me that I wouldn't be seeing her at all anymore. He then told her that she had to go tell her boss that she was quitting and then followed her home so that she couldn't stop. He didn't let us speak before she left.

That night I could not sleep, that was this Monday, I still have not slept. Or eaten.
The next day she got a text out because they didn't realize her phone would get service on their hill, she told me that they took the phones, the internet was gone, and that they took the cables from her car. Her mother was staying home from work so that they couldn't leave. They were calling it an intervention and she said she called it murder. They were telling her that I was a bad person and that I was ruining her and they all saw it but I didn't. She told me that she wanted, needed out, right then. I got a cop to go over to help her and the whole time she was begging me, please Jake hurry, please Jake hurry.

Before the cops got there her dad did, she told me he was on his way up from the fields and she never replied again. When the cop got there she said that she was just fine and that she had changed her mind. I was so upset that I wanted to die right then and there but when I was about to do it I realized that there was still a chance I might be able to save her, though I didn't and still don't know how.

I got her friend to sneak in today acting like she didn't know she wasn't supposed to be there. She got a note to her for me and Cassy told her that she was losing weight and could not function or go on much longer. She was miserable and just wanted to leave but her father said that if she left he would only get her back and then he would send her away to get help and that I would be arrested.

She told her friend to tell me that she loved me. That if her car wasn't useless or she had a phone or the internet or she could leave without losing each other forever that she would. I've spent the whole day searching and searching for a solution. Cops, CPS, Emancipation, Eloping.

I don't know what to do.
Please god, somebody help me.
Giving up is not an option.
Waiting will kill me, I'm sure of it.
What can I do?
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Re: 18 Going On Extinct

Postby Chucky » Fri Jul 09, 2010 8:56 pm

Others have replied elsewhere, and so I am just going to reply with just points:

I believe that you were wrong to acll the cops. It is a family issue and as Jasmin has said, she is not yet an adult, legally, and therefore she is still under the guardianship of her parents. CAlling the cops has most likely made the situation worse.

I have been in love with a girl previously while both of our parents didn't want us to be together. We met up in secret and broke rule after rule. Nothing could stop us from loving each other, and I risked all in my life for her. In the end, I reasoned with her mother and father to just let the relationship happen. If they tried to break us apart, I argued that it could end in complete disaster. Both her and I had previously attempted suicide. I even mentioned to her mother that I knew the relationship eould not last forever, but to break us apart so suddenly was a wrong move. She agreed, everyone let us see each other, and then it lasted for just under a year.

Be very careful about how you approach this. You cannot be her knight in shining armour, and don't be the one to break a family apart.

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