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Hi everyone I am so glad to find the website.

I think I am currently in an unhealth and maybe verbally abusive relationship with my mother.

She has some mental and physical health problems.

I with with my mother, father, brother 5 years old, and sister 16 years old. I am 22 years old.

Her mood change rapidly in a hurry, and then she use bad words, and she very hurtfully things.

Besides that she is cutting of my lines of communication. She threated to harm me If I call anyone from my church.

I know she has listened into my phone conversations.

My Fahter is 75 and my Mother is 49. Niether one of them are taking care of my 5 year old brother and my 16 year old sister the way they should be.

She was arrested in october after calling the police on my sister during a minor despute.

I give my mother a big check in month.

I love my mother; but both me and my Father agree she is going overboard.

Is this really abuse or I am crazy? I don't think I am crazy; but my dr. thinks I am.

My Mother does not take her medication the way her dr. tells her too.

She sometimes apolizeses; but goes right back at it again. One time she asked to come in my room at 8:00 P.M. to look at my toilet to see if it was clean!

I am a good person. goal oreinted, and ambitous.

I want to get out of that house as soon as I can.

Most of my local community and church are outrage at my mother's behavoir. She stays in a dark room all day.

Most of the local communtity and the church are on my side.

I plan to move out, and maybe marry, I think I can do it I have a lot of supporters.

If you were mother what would you do? and to you parents out there how does this make you feel?

What do you gals and guys make of it?

Hi AHMI, you asked what any guys or gals think of the situation your discribeing? well from my point of view you very well may be pariniod of hidden intentions from others & I dont think people sideing aginst your mother helps the matter any in fact it may just support parinoid ideas, i'm sure your mother may have some issues too but this whole involveing everyone to takes sides problebly gets her pretty upsett inflameing problems she may have. I'm not trying to bully you i've just been parinoid about my famely members in the past as well and haveing people outside the famely supporting my dulusuins just made me fight my famely tooth and toenail - today I realize there not bad people. By the way if a church trys to divide a famely then that definitely aint the church you should be going to (cult like) so find some reasonable non dramatic level headed people who arnt afraid to tell you the truth - meny good ones in these forums.