Dealing with friends...

hsieh wrote:lol. you mean chinese?

Yeah, Chinese, not Japanese. That should show you just how misleading it actually was.

Btw, why Chinese? Why can't he be Korean?

emotionless81 wrote:I agree. I guess I was just looking for a second opinion. I really did not want to believe that these people that I called friends would do this to me.

I'm sorry you had to learn the hard way... there is no such thing as friendship. There are only temporary alliances between people who want things from each other. Whatever it was they wanted from you (and undoubtedly you'll never know what it was, maybe like someone else said it was the secret hope that you would fail) they don't want or can't get anymore.

Every friend a person ever has will eventually stomp on them, unless you stomp first. Sometimes you're lucky and it happens in a few weeks, other times people will pretend for decades. Some really lucky people die before they find out what their friends really think, they are the only people who die happy.

If you really want someone loyal, get a dog.

Incorrigible wrote:

hsieh wrote:lol. you mean chinese?

Yeah, Chinese, not Japanese. That should show you just how misleading it actually was.

Btw, why Chinese? Why can't he be Korean?

lee is chinese. it means (in chinese) "he who leans". just as hsieh is chinese for "one who masturbates with a shoe brush".

get it?

sfguy75x wrote:

emotionless81 wrote:I agree. I guess I was just looking for a second opinion. I really did not want to believe that these people that I called friends would do this to me.

I'm sorry you had to learn the hard way... there is no such thing as friendship. There are only temporary alliances between people who want things from each other. Whatever it was they wanted from you (and undoubtedly you'll never know what it was, maybe like someone else said it was the secret hope that you would fail) they don't want or can't get anymore.

Every friend a person ever has will eventually stomp on them, unless you stomp first. Sometimes you're lucky and it happens in a few weeks, other times people will pretend for decades. Some really lucky people die before they find out what their friends really think, they are the only people who die happy.

If you really want someone loyal, get a dog.

That's so depressing, but most likely true. This makes me hate the world.

actually this reminds me of something im going thru. I have this "best" friend of mine whom i have met from over 4 years now, we used to go to middleschool together and now highschool. He pretty much introduced me to everything I know and do so he always had more experience in watever it was that he introduced me to and therefore he was always better and the person I look up to and who i wanted to be like. We have always been a group of friends are we always were together and met every day to talk and stuff even tho he changed school along with my friends (leaving me behind at the old high school).
Recently, he introduced me to a job, I was making less money and had less benefits than he did. A few weeks after I started at the job I seemed to get along well with the guys working there and the manager and I got to know a few people who offered me a job in the same field but earning about 3 times more than we were doing b4 so I start working with them with the idea of being me who introduces him later to like thanks him for always helping me and in a way help him for once since hes always the guy that helps me. When he received these news that they had offered me this job, which my other friends told him next day at school, I could get a grip on him that day and I was wondering why so I asked the other guys we used to hand around and talk, what had happened. They told me that when he found out about my new job, he seemed really pissed at me but I guessed they were making a big deal of it. For the next few days I could not get in contact with him and he didnt show up in the group but my friends said he was saying I was an idiot and a bunch of other more offensive things toward me. It has been a month and I still havent talk to him and im not looking upon for it since hes got pissed at me for no reason. I am guessing that if he wants to talk to me and say sorry or something he will eventually call me.
soo thats my story, I guess if u get mad because somebody got better, then u probably not the right person to be friend with.

I have a question, mrquestion. Did you actually leave the old job before your friend found out? Or did you give 2 weeks notice to the old job and he found out during those 2 weeks?

From the way it looks, your friend might have a good reason to be angry. First, who knows what he had to do in order to get you that job. More likely than not, he had to speak highly of you to his boss. When someone recommends a person for a job, they're pretty much 'guaranteeing" this person. With what? Their own reputation.

It would be one thing for you to be a star employee who moves on to bigger and better things after a year or two. But you quit after only a few weeks. And whether you realize it or not, that reflects badly on your friend. It might not have been so bad if you were the one who broke the news to him. But to find out from other friends? After he put his own reputation on the line to get you the job? If you do see him again, make sure to kick the rest of his teeth out.

You mentioned pay scales a few times. For some reason, I don't think this problem has anything to do with how big your check grew.

im guessing you could be right but it had alredy passed a kind of a long time plus it was not like i quit my job to go to this new one, it was more like a promotion or transfering to another department you could say.

hsieh wrote:

Incorrigible wrote:

hsieh wrote:lol. you mean chinese?

Yeah, Chinese, not Japanese. That should show you just how misleading it actually was.

Btw, why Chinese? Why can't he be Korean?

lee is chinese. it means (in chinese) "he who leans". just as hsieh is chinese for "one who masturbates with a shoe brush".

get it?

... How do you say: "Hello, I am a shoe brush" in Chinese?

I would say your friends sound jealous and your friends should be supportive and happy for you. Anyway, I suggest dumping these friends and finding new one's who are happy with themselves and can offer love rather then feel insecure about your achievements because they feel inadequate.

I use to have crappy friends where I was always giving to them more then I was receiving. I got tired of it and moved on and have found friends who offer kindness and support towards my achievements. It takes such a huge load off your shoulders when you have uplifting people in your life rather then people who bring you down because of their own issues.

Hope that helps.