I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

nightmareb4christmas wrote:well I feel sorry for the little girl next door again now because her mum has had an operation on her hand and her mum is making her hoover for her HOW MEAN IS THAT SHE'S ONLY 8 AND IT'S DENGEROUS

her brother is 15 and her mum treats them as if there the same age

Her brother has just had a birthday and has loads of cards and a hugh one from the parents and Elen gets nothing

Also she can't win either way because no parents want her playing with there kids because they think she's too old for her age and her family scream at her and hit her and tell her she acts like a baby HOW MEAN IS THAT

The mother had an operation on her hands? Is this scenario real or made up? How do you know what goes inside this girl's home? Furthermore, how do you know this little girl is unhappy with her life? Perhaps you're projecting your own issues onto this girl and seeing things that just aren't there.

For the record, I vacuumed when I was 8. It's certainly not dangerous. Young children are a lot more capable than what we give them credit for.

Nightmare,
You asked "what can I do to change it"?
Two people, including me, gave you some practical ideas on how to change.
But you respond by telling us even MORE info on this girl. It's as if you didn't read the suggestions, or you just read them, skipped over them, and went right back to obsesssing about someone else's life.
You either don't really want to change, or perhaps are incapable of changing. I don't know.
But I am sharing the frustrated feelings that your mother is probably feeling about hearing over and over and over about other people's lives. Your mother isn't being nasty to you; she is just very tired of you talking about the same things all the time.
Do you know that when you put sooooo much time into looking at the lives of others, it's a way to not have to look at your own life? Forget the little girl's problems. Look at your own problems - pay close attention to your own problems - look at your own life the way you are looking at this girl's life. Maybe then you'll become motivated to make some changes to better your own life.
And please, stop torturing your mom and dad about this little girl's life. I think that if I lived with you and had to hear this from you day after day, I'd yell and be nasty to you too, to try to get you to stop. I'm getting frustrated just hearing you online; I can't imagine what it would be like to live with you and not be able to stop you from saying the same things repeatedly.
Why don't you take my suggestions and NOT talk about this girl for a few weeks? You'll feel better and I think you'll find that your family won't be as 'mean' to you as you think they are now.

1. I know her mum has had an operation because she told my dad that she has
2. My parents also say it's torcher for them having to listen to me going on about next door
3. I have gone threw times when I don't mention her and when I start again my mum goes bellistic about me starting it up again

nightmareb4christmas wrote:
3. I have gone threw times when I don't mention her

Happy, happy times. At least you know you CAN do it, and those times are the evidence.

two_roads wrote:

nightmareb4christmas wrote:
3. I have gone threw times when I don't mention her

Happy, happy times. At least you know you CAN do it, and those times are the evidence.

but then my mum gets angry when I start mentioning her again

nightmareb4christmas wrote:

two_roads wrote:

nightmareb4christmas wrote:
3. I have gone threw times when I don't mention her

Happy, happy times. At least you know you CAN do it, and those times are the evidence.

but then my mum gets angry when I start mentioning her again

You aren't 3, you are 23. The role of a victim doesn't suit you.

Your negativity is poisonous- for you and for those around you.

what do you mean

nightmareb4christmas wrote:what do you mean

you are nourishing negative feelings.

two_roads wrote:

nightmareb4christmas wrote:what do you mean

you are nourishing negative feelings.

and why did you have to say your 23 not 3

nightmareb4christmas wrote:

two_roads wrote:

nightmareb4christmas wrote:what do you mean

you are nourishing negative feelings.

and why did you have to say your 23 not 3

because of your relationship with your mother and your laziness.. that's how a 3 yr old would typically behave, for example torturing their mother with one same story that has little significance for them.