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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Mon Jun 08, 2009 3:24 pm

Guys don't take over her thread. I've told her that she could have a thread for "elen" if it helps her to write it out. She had permission to make this thread... all though it'll still be watched, please let her use it as she needs too. I've removed the pictures posted....
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby fgactgyy » Mon Jun 08, 2009 3:40 pm

You are overreacting mommy bear.
Or maybe her condition is far worst then i thought.
Is she criminally insane?
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Mon Jun 08, 2009 3:47 pm

fgactgyy wrote:You are overreacting mommy bear.
Or maybe her condition is far worst then i thought.
Is she criminally insane?




Why would you think that fgactgyy?

i think if anyone cannot help to put any helpful comments to nightmareb4christmas it's likely best to stay off the thread. I know people have not liked how she has posted in the past, but in all honesty she does have a right to be here as she has not broken any rules on the site.

It seems to me that there is a real issue here, whether it's undiagnosed or diagnosed... there's a reason why there's certain obsessive thoughts going on in her mind.... If this thread will help her to get it out, then she can use it, as long as she keeps all messages within this thread. No one has to respond if you do not feel you can give anything helpful to her, just let her use it strictly as a type of journal...
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby fgactgyy » Mon Jun 08, 2009 4:26 pm

Oh come on BeeF

It was like breath of fresh air in this thread filled with insanity.
If you want to keep her in sterile place only with her tripping and flipping mind...i am not sure is this a good solution.
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby two_roads » Mon Jun 08, 2009 9:33 pm

Butterfly Faerie wrote:. I've told her that she could have a thread for "elen" if it helps her to write it out. ..


Good idea, at least now she will have just one thread for it.

If you asked me for a method I'd implement, it'd be for her to keep silent about the little girl forever, but that's just me. I think this way she's just feeding it. Perhaps she's venting, but she's feeding the story at the same time. It's a double-sided coin.

I normally recommend talking about problems, but not in this particular case/context.
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Mon Jun 08, 2009 10:48 pm

two_roads wrote:
Butterfly Faerie wrote:. I've told her that she could have a thread for "elen" if it helps her to write it out. ..


Good idea, at least now she will have just one thread for it.

If you asked me for a method I'd implement, it'd be for her to keep silent about the little girl forever, but that's just me. I think this way she's just feeding it. Perhaps she's venting, but she's feeding the story at the same time. It's a double-sided coin.

I normally recommend talking about problems, but not in this particular case/context.


I don't think she will though that's the thing, best have an outlet for her to discuss it when the urge comes... ;)
It may be feeding but at least it's contained to one thread only, and not 5+ posts in the child abuse and this forum...

You are right it's a double coin, but may as well see how it goes.. ;)


There has been a few threads where nightmare was talking about it more then repeating, though it seems sometimes she does listen, it does go back to the same things though, it's like almost a never-ending story as it's the same issues.

However, if it's contained here it's better then elsewhere on the site, and if no one wants to respond or read it then they definitely do not have too. ;) Yeah not sure if it's venting or other... oh well, we'll see how it goes.
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby nightmareb4christmas » Mon Jun 08, 2009 11:21 pm

As to your claim that no one else is treated badly by their own family, that is false. There are people who undergo far more abuse than you or I have experienced. It's unfortunate that you don't get along, but I don't think you do anything to improve your situation.
but what can I do to change it
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Mon Jun 08, 2009 11:34 pm

nightmareb4christmas wrote:As to your claim that no one else is treated badly by their own family, that is false. There are people who undergo far more abuse than you or I have experienced. It's unfortunate that you don't get along, but I don't think you do anything to improve your situation.
but what can I do to change it



Seek help of a professional like was mentioned.
Continue what you are doing in terms of looking for a better job, saving money and moving out.

Look into maybe going to your library and looking for self-help books that may be useful to you.
There's a ton of information out there online, though not all information out there is accurate so you need to be careful, and don't use Wikipedia, not the best resource, as anyone can edit and add to it.
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby LifeSong » Tue Jun 09, 2009 3:18 am

Maybe you could try an experiment.
You say your mom gets very frustrated and says nasty things to you when you talk about the girl next door, or the boys down the street.
Well, you could try to bring less bad feelings and more peace into your home by NOT SPEAKING ABOUT the little girl or other kids at all until your birthday. Not one sentence about them. Not one word. Not saying anything at all in that time to your mom or your dad or anyone in your house.
You could try that as an experiment and see if it makes your house a little bit more peaceful and if it makes things between you and your mom just a little bit easier.
Try it! You have the power to do this. See what happens!
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Re: I get upset because the little girl next door was crossing

Postby nightmareb4christmas » Tue Jun 09, 2009 3:45 pm

well I feel sorry for the little girl next door again now because her mum has had an operation on her hand and her mum is making her hoover for her HOW MEAN IS THAT SHE'S ONLY 8 AND IT'S DENGEROUS

her brother is 15 and her mum treats them as if there the same age

Her brother has just had a birthday and has loads of cards and a hugh one from the parents and Elen gets nothing :cry:

Also she can't win either way because no parents want her playing with there kids because they think she's too old for her age and her family scream at her and hit her and tell her she acts like a baby HOW MEAN IS THAT
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