Should I wish my exgirlfriend a happy birthday or not?

We dated for 4 months. It was intense. Lots of jealousy and passion between us. We both ended it after a huge fight months ago. She did wish me a happy birthday two weeks after she dumped me( i agreed with the breakup)

She tried to be civil with me...but i was still mad at her. She moved some guy into her house as a roommate and that caused our breakup. They are just roommates...but it was a weird arrangment cause she was like his mom and financial planner. The guy was a total deadbeat. I got jealous and I accused her of cheating on me. And hiding him from me. She wasnt letting me in her house anymore. I was like whatever. The guy was mentally retarded. (Slightly) and missing teeth. I will never know if they were having sex. Her friends tell me no way!..theyare just roomates and thats all...he is slowww. Mentally slow. Not her type.

Anyway, after we brole up we texted a few times back and forth since our break up and it was obvious she was trying to get back together. She asked if i spoke to her roomate i said no. Then valnetines rolls around i didnt wish her anything. She got really mad and sent me a nasty text saying...did you find a valentines yet? I said no. She said it figures! Then i told her i still cared about her...then she said whatever! you wish me a valentines!
I told her i tha i missed seeing her. That was it..haventheard from her in months and i still would like to say hello and reconnect. The problem is...i might see her in two weeks at an event she always goes too and i will be with a new date. So im wonderingif i should blow her off and act like im doing better without her? Or act like i still have feelings for her? If i act like i care and show up at event with my new date....she might get mixed messages.

So what i do i do?

Hi,

If I was in your situation, I probably wouldn't bother sending her a happy birthday message. She has clearly been 'hot and cold' with you previously and who knows how she'd react. I acn imagine that if I sent a happy birthday to my ex, she'd probably react by saying: "Why are you wishing me a happy birthday?". Maybe this girl would do the same to you.

Anyway, just move on in your life and - yeh - pretend as if things are good/better for you now without her.

Kevin

hello mysteryman,

You both are playing hide and seek with each other. You know what is your problem? You can't stand with one matter that she is living with her partner who is mentally retarded. You are pushing her. Anyways i felt that still you both are loving each other. So forget the past and get together back with new days.

I you are on good terms with her, or have remained a friendship etc... then it doesn't hurt to wish her a happy birthday. I've wished happy b-days to my ex's.. nothing wrong with it at all.... as long as you are ok with it, and she'd be ok with it.