unethical?

backpaq wrote:But on the other hand, I don't feel I am this horrible...

I agree with you. You don't seem horrible in my eyes either. I don't know why you originally started seeing her, but she's crossing the line with what she's doing. We don't know why she's treating you this way, but it's for her own selfish and twisted reasons. Regardless of what she says and how she acts towards you, the problem is with her, not you.

I need to separate and put space between us continually

Yes, that's a good idea and I totally agree with you, backpaq. It might take time to break free from her, but you can do it if you truly want to.

backpaq wrote:

It is amazing how they all (violators) put the blame back on you...instead of admitting they were at fault also....

They always do, they don't think what they are doing is wrong, and they always blame the victim for it.

I am not strong enough to break this tie. It's as if all my
weak points are targeted. It makes me wonder if this is
part of therapy. I am so tired of hurting that I almost
cannot stand the pain anymore. I try to be strong and
break away but I long for what is waved in my face, only
to have it snatched away. Is indescribable pain suppose
to be a part of this? Maybe I am too weak to proceed and
break the tie that hurts beyond all hurts.