I hate how my dad said that we make are own friends in this

nightmareb4christmas wrote:I've always been surrounded by Chavs as well

Just be a chav and get it over with. You're surrounded by them. It's a sign...

but I don't like chav dress sense

Don't go by the way they are dressed.... go by what type of person they are.

I just want to go to more gigs

Asuka wrote:Incorrigable no one wants to be a chav. I was surrounded by them and I'm not a chav.

Nb4c wants to be a goth so she can fit into a group. Chavs...goths....emos....doesn't matter, it's all the same. I'm sure the chavs will welcome her with open arms. It'll be short lived of course. But not before it teaches her the power of individual autonomy.

I think there is a forum called gonegothic. It is all ages, but mostly people under 25. I believe you're in your early 20s so it might be a nice way to meet more goths.

I'm actually interested in the goth lifestyle. Of course, in any group you are going to find people who say "you aren't emo/goth/metal enough, you're just a poseur." If you look long enough, you might find the ones who aren't full of themselves. If you don't, there isn't any harm in finding people who accept the style or way of life who will care about you. If it makes you feel strange, like an outcast or like you're out of place because of clothing differences, you can find a balance you are comfortable with. Like not wearing fishnet stockings, but wearing black. Goths don't have to adhere to a particular color, some are neon goths. Part of being a goth is thinking outside of the box, and there are many people who don't view themselves as goths who do just that.
If you believe you always end up with the wrong people, you should consider their behaviors quickly (after talking to them a few of times) and not waste time if you feel it is going a certain route.

I also hate how my family has a huge problem with torn fishnets

we're your family now

Don't worry what your parents thing of clothes. You are old enough to make your own decisions with clothing and friends, don't take what they say to heart, you are your own person you aren't a child anymore.

would you all be my friends?