To do or not to do

I went to a doc's office (not a shrink's office), and this receptionist kept talking to me, and I think she likes me. I'll be keep going back on Fridays and she works there on Fridays so it's likely that I'll see her again.
She happens to be my ethnicity, but was born in US, but the things is that she's 15 years younger than me. She is of legal age, but somehow due to my mental health issue and its accompanying isolation I'm again not sure if I can pursue this. Well, the younger the female, usually the easier to pursue...... I lied to her and said that I'm 14 years older than her, even though I'm 15 years older. She apparently thinks I'm young enough for her, saying that I still look young and stuffs.
I think about 5 or 6 years down the road, 15 year gap will be less noticeable.
This girl invited me to come to her church tomorrow, where I had difficulty feeling comfortable about 2 years ago.... Should I go tomorrow or no?
If I don't go, that may disappoint the young girl or even bruise her self-esteem......
With my situation, I'll take any woman who likes me even if she were 15 years younger, but being the way I am, should I visit her church tomorrow?

I've been keep postponing dating due to my having no friends, and my tendency to break out in sweats in uncomfortable social situations.

Hi,

You don't actually state what age she is, but there are many people together with an age gap of 15 years. While saying this, you have already made a terrible mistake by lying abot your age. You have to tell the truth in every circumstance. lies build-up over time, seulki3, and you should tell her thr truth now before things get worse.

Kevin

Hey Kevin,
Well, I would differ about having made a terrible mistake. I don't think lying by 1 year is a big deal..... Remember John McCain when he met Cindy to-be-McCain in Hawaii?

She's 21, so like I said she is of legal age.

seulki3

Granted, 'terrible' is the wrong word to use, but at least it got you thinking about it. Are you going to tell her the truth before proceeding?

I don't see why I should as I'm not sure if anything will come out of it if I proceed that is if I were to proceed tomorrow.

Her invitation was "If you don't have any plans for tomorrow's Valentine day, you could come to my church." I don't think she was trying to make me to come for a missionary purpose.

I wouldn't go to the church tomorrow. First of all, it's church. Secondly, she might think you don't have anything going on in your life if you take this short notice invitation and actually show up. Call her on the 15th to set something else up. And don't talk about your age around her any more.

I just thought of something. See, when I go to the doctors office, I have to sign my name on the list at the receptionists desk. Then she runs off and gets my file for the doc.

Is that how they do it there too? What are the chances she might glance at your information? I only ask that because your birth date is in there. If she sees it, you're busted. And to women, it doesn't matter how small the lie is; it's still a lie.

Hey Incorrigible:
I am not the patient at the office. I will be there for someone else as the real patient needs a chauffeur, but thanks for thinking about my situation.

You differ huh? If lying about your age when you were only 1 year off wasn't that big of a deal? Why not be honest in the first place?

Because to be honest, thats exactly what I was thinking, 15 years.. or 16 years, the difference can't exactly be noticed, she already knows you're older.

If you want any real chance at being with her, I suggest you come clean about it asap.

Greatsharkbite wrote:You differ huh? If lying about your age when you were only 1 year off wasn't that big of a deal? Why not be honest in the first place?

Because to be honest, thats exactly what I was thinking, 15 years.. or 16 years, the difference can't exactly be noticed, she already knows you're older.

If you want any real chance at being with her, I suggest you come clean about it asap.

You have a point, however, coming clean to the minutest detail as you suggest would only be necessary when and if things were to get serious. Things are barely at that stage.

What exactly did you mean by "I differ"?????? Not that it matters what you meant

Also, do you happen to be suggesting that women come clean with men and are totally honest all the time since you are asking that I do so in this highly premature and uncertain stage??? That's just for your consideration.

You don't have to respond and I'm not asking you to.