A friend or a manipulator???

Hello!
I am in a very peculiar and at the same time frustrating situation. The thing is, I´ve been chatting with one guy on the net for almost 2 years until now. I went on one chatting program for I wanted to find new friends and improve my English at the same time. Then I met this guy, and found him a funny, nice man to talk and laugh with, who likes chatting as much as I do. Some months ago... I realised he had an intimate relationship with his OWN sibling... I just couldn´t believe it... how can a person whom I found so nice DO such a thing?!?! It was a pure shock. Moreover... the way I "learned" about the secret was, that he sent me a mail that was ment to be sent to another person... (he apologised to me later about doing „one of the biggest mistakes of his life by sending it to me by accident“....). I haven´t talked to him for a month or so after that... but then I started to chat to him again. I think it was because I just rememebered the time I enjoyed when chatting earlier + the fact I don´t have my best friend nearby... as she is working abroad and the rest of my friends are dating. Lastly, when we chatted... he told me he visited a psychologist, as he "couldn´t take it anymore" ( I told him earlier I advise him to seek a specialist actually...) He didn´t have problem to discuss with me what advice HE gave to him... like "have sex with your sister without climax and so..." He asked me... „what do you think about this advice?“ I was REALLY feeling bad about this... like... WHY should I listen to this?! I know he finds me a friend, but there are LIMITS about what to say and what NOT to...(I just told myself: HE CAN´T BE NORMAL!!!) and in the end he just typed ... it´s just misfortune what happened to him – to be so „sexy“ that even his sister wants him (he said it was her who made the first step...) But still... I have a feeling that he simply doesn´t know where are the limits in life - not just because he was ABLE to start the relationship (even thought he DID went to see the specialist in the end), but also cause he speaks to me-his chat friend in this VERY "honest" manner. I am starting to feel quite sad about situation I am in... as I found him a nice friend and still believe that he is nice (but not ENTIRELY, I mean when it comes to basic moral things), but the question is... is it HEALTHY and NORMAL for someone to continue chatting with a person like this, who causes your self-consious feel bad????? Would YOU chat to such a person ( imagine you find someone who you really enjoy your time with – have the same sense of humour, forget problems in life with... but then you realise what I did....) Please, any opinion would be appreciated. I am really sad about this : (

Hi, Karinn! Are you sure he's telling the truth? Did it start when they were kids and what's the age difference between him and his sister?
You're right, this can't be normal and you don't have to talk to him if you don't want to. You could tell him to look for a new psych. What the other psych told him is very disturbing and I don't think it was helpful at all.

Hello Jasmin!Thx for reaction. He is 29 and she is (as he told me) 20... he actually reminded me the fact that they are adults and that he loves her (though... I have doubts about it as well... when his conscious is awakening - if he really did visit the doc.)... Anyway... even if it really was true that his own sister started that relationship... it means she has some problems she can´t cope with... (he told me that she confessed him about having sexual fantasies with him since 16....) I guess his EGO grew to unprecedented measure and he forgot to control completely or I don´t know... It´s just unhealthy and really really disturbing... as no matter what... they ARE siblings and even though young and healthy... with their desires... there is still the etics subject... and I guess his sister will have MUCH more mental troubles in the future than he alone...

I forgot to mention that it was supposed to start some time around last year during Christmas... so - they were adults at the time

It sounds like they both have problems. Even though they're both adults, he shouldn't have responded to her advances and he should have encouraged her to get some help. I'm still not sure if he's telling you the thruth, though. Maybe there's some history of abuse or mental illness in their family, but I'm not sure if that would necessarily have to be the case.
Ask him to think about what's healthy for him and his sister and tell him to see a new psych when you see him, I guess.

Thx for reply again. I might ask him to visit some other psychologist ... though I don´t know whether it will be worth any effort ... I am still getting more and more persuaded about him lying to me completely about the visit of psychologist and who knows... whether even about something else

You should keep an open mind about what he's saying. Remember that it's easy to lie to people on the internet. Maybe he'd be doing it for attention or maybe he just lied about the therapist, who knows, but there's not much you can do about this. He's responsible for his own choices.