not very serious, just need a little advice

right i have recently posted a problem i had here http://www.psychforums.com/viewtopic.ph ... 388#190388
and thanks to chuckys help i have pretty much been diagnosed with aspergers syndrome. it is now something i have come to accept and im working on finding easier ways to enjoy my social life.

now to my problem, basically i just started college on monday and didnt really make any friends, i was just on my own walking around and stuff. anyway i was eating my lunch the day before yesterday and some girls came running over and sat with me. i thought it was a little strange. but anyway i wont go into details but these girls are now my friends at college:D ,nearly all girls, im not complaining lol.

the problem is that 1 girl in particular has been showing an interest or so i think.i for some reason every day this week have managed to spend too much money on lunch and not have enough for the bus journey home.

this girl has decided she will walk with me home (we live in the same area of town). today tho we were going through town and she decided she wanted to take me to see her mum with her, so i said yeah ok and we got lunch at the bakery and everything.

when we walked home it got to the place where we split off and go our seperate ways home and i was quite amazed when she asked me for a hug.i know with most girls this isnt anything special but she isnt usually very affectionate and certainly doesnt hug people from what i have seen.

again although i dont really know her, our group always has lunch together and has all the same classes so i see alot of her.

another thing is now she will always sit near me in lesson, which again i dont mind. when we talk tho i have started to also notice her talking about herself ALOT, and she wont really do that with anyone else. sounds a little tight but its almost like an advert lol.

theres more but i cant be bothered to write it anymore and you are probably bored reading now so ill just start with the question here.

your probably wondering where the problem is here, this is usually a great opportunity to get yourself a girlfriend, but, my problem is im not attracted to her and i like another girl from our group (her best friend i think) who im thinking about asking out soon.

so although im not going to ask her out, im scared she will ask me and as our group is pretty much all girls (im not trying to be sexist here) im not sure how well me turning her down and then going out with her best friend a few days later will go down with me and her and her friend seeing as i just met them all.

so just tell me what you all think i should do here bearing in mind i probably have aspergers syndrome and find it difficult to read people so i could have all this wrong, and im also definatly not very sensitive or empathetic lol

Hi, cheesychips4320! It sounds like this girl does like you and might ask you out. If you don't feel attracted to her, you can tell her that you want to stay friends, if she asks you out. Be nice to her.
If you like her friend, you should probably wait a while, at least a few weeks before telling her that you like her, I think. She might already know that her best friend has a thing for you any way.

thanks jasmin

of course id be nice to her lol! its a compliment and to be honest the only reason im really bothered at all is cos i want everyone to stay friends

yeah i think ill have to wait for a while, kinda frustrating for me tho. but i guess it will be worth it

has anyone else had any situations like this they wana talk about here?

You could also drop little hints to this girl about how you like being her friend and stuff like that. She'll probably know what you mean.

yeah ill have to see what happens. i got to wait till monday tho

Ok, cheesychips, good luck!

take it slow, cheesy, with the girl you're interested in. If she shows any interest at all, try and remain patient and don't push/rush her into anything.

Good Luck

ok cool thanks guys

Hey, cheesychips! Hope you're doing well.

thanks yeah im alright.

slight problem tho, i took your advice and decided to wait a while to aks this girl out. only thing is that now she is going out with this other guy lol. im ok with this tho cos i can see she is happy and i get on with the other guy so its not like i hate him lol. ill just wait and see what happens with them or maybe ask someone else.

we are all still friends tho so i guess its all ok