boyfriend worry's

Iv been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months.
I'm moving a few miles away very soon, and then he'll be moving a few more miles away about a month later. We've had a discussion about if we did end up braking up how he would most definitely want to stay real friends with me, as he's friends with all his other ex's, and I'm no exception as he would still respect me and enjoy my company.
I've noticed he doesn't change his bed sheets for me anymore. And He's said how the idea of us splitting up use to terrify him, but it doesn't much anymore (not sure if thats a negative thing or positive.)
I really don't want us to brake up, and i will do pretty much anything for it not to happen, as i have never thought i would never feel like this about anyone. He brake has said that he's never had such a well balanced close relationship with anyone like me, and i feel the same.

Does it sound like a land slide to splitting up.
Is there anyone else who's had a long distance relationship and had it work out? And how did you?

Any feed back would be so much appreciated.
xx

Hey, Miss-messy! I hope things work out between the two of you. It sounds like you really care about this guy. I can see how this would worry you, but maybe you should ask him to be honest with you about what he wants.

Thanks jasmine. I think this is him being honest. I cant stand the thought that he's feeling different about me to how he did at the begining of the relationship.

hi! how long would the drive be? is it really that far? as you said you both spoke about breaking up in the first place, but did you tell him that ultimately you didn't want to? perhaps he took the talk differently and is setting himself up so he isn't as upset IF you do in fact break up.

i think you should speak to him about it, and tell him you enjoy his company and regardless of where you two live, you still want to be together.

goodluck

Sounds like to me he is saddened that you an him will be apart, and that prospect makes him not care anymore.

Like "what's the use? I am losing her anyway"

Just my guess.

How are things going, Miss-messy? It's ok if you're busy, I just hope you are alright.

I feel that long distant relationships aren't impossible at all. They just have to be handled differently than a relationship that isn't long distance.

All it takes is dedication and the want to make it work. If you like/love someone as much as you claim, or that your partner claims, then it shouldn't be different when theres distance. You're still the same person as you are now.

It's natural to get nervous over distance when it's approaching, but the most important thing is to have strong communication. No secrets, no second thoughts (left unsaid), don't WAIT for someone to bring something up, and no pouting on the inside. Just make sure both of you are on the same page. The communication is the life line. If it gets cut or damaged... that's a major problem.

I was in a long distant relationship myself. The first year and a half was the long distance part. We lived about 2 hours away from each other (which some people don't consider long distance). But we attended the same university eventually. I would drive up every Friday and stay till Sunday/Monday. I did that for that first year or so. Our breakup had nothing to do with distance.

So yea, it's not impossible. Just keep all that in mind.

Every things so stressful for me, and him. When he's stressed he takes it out on me and snaps. As I'm a really sensitive person anyway... it's not that good.
He feels really bad about it, because he spends 30% of his time trying to build my confidence up, then the other half knocking it down.
If we carry on trying to make it work and it doesn't work out well end up not being able to stay friends. And theres always a small chance we could get back together when things have settled down, but thats not going to happen if we cant be friends.
It makes me so sad co'z we haven't had any real bad times, so it makes me think why, why do we have to be going down this road. I live less then half hour away from him at the mo, and don't know anyone else in the area a tall.
I cant stop reminiscing and wishing. I still feel exactly the same about him.

Miss-messy, he shouldn't take it out on you! You shouldn't have to depend on him to build up your self confidance only so he can tear it down. I'm sorry, but he sounds a bit controlling. Think about what you need to do for yourself. I really hope the two of you can find a way to be happy.

I know it's not, fair, right or whatever. I can understand it i do it to ppl all the time, and i really don't mean to. I knows its wrong and it's a really big reason to why we're.. being friends. He feels terrible, as it's every thing that he finds disgusting.
He very slightly controlling, it's what he's use to doing work wise.. It's oky, because He's really very supportive, understanding, open minded.... (IM gonna shut up now before i work myself in to tears...) and it balances it all out.
I know plenties of ppl have been hear in this of heart brack.