Stay with her or not worth it?

Hi everyone,

Lately I met with a girl that has been with her boyfriend for 3 years. Unfortunately he went with another girl while she was in hospital. He told her but still remained with him until she finds someone better. She found me but she is waiting for the best moment to leave him (like a fight or something similar).

In the mean time we still see each other just as friends, although I am afraid that the word friends won't be valid anymore since we have this great bond.

She doesn't have the guts to leave him for no reason. She knows that he had done bad things in the past but she still persists to wait for the moment or else we can just get together as a couple and then tell him that she went with another guy as a revenge and excuse to what he made her pass through.

What is the best solution for this situation?

thanks

Hi, Roberto! I guess you could tell her that it isn't fair to you and that you need a real relationship. Maybe ask her to choose.

She already chose me, she told me to wait for some time until she has a valid reason because she is a very kind heart girl and she is afraid of his reaction

Well, if you're wondering wether to stay with her or not, maybe you have to be honest and tell her why this is bothering you. Actions do speak louder than words and you have every right to feel weird about this situation.

I need to prove myself that I am worth it before she takes the decisions :/

And how will you have to do this, if I may ask?

sound like a vulture, i been their, bad news imo

I can understand why she doesn't want to dump him out of the blue unless he does something to trigger it, but keeping you waiting for her is cruel IMO, Roberto. You should let her know that. The feelings you feel must be strong, and it is horrible that you have to wait to experience the full connection with her.

well we just met as friends there was no intention to be together. Things accelerated. leaving some one after three years I guess it is no joke. I will discuss this issue again with her .

She is aware of the situation. They always fight and they are from two different worlds. She has a problem to let go and start something new. She wants to leave him but she is finding it hard to tell him. Unfortunately things turned out faster then we thought and it was a surprise to us that we got so close in such a short period of time.

Sh doesn't have any single friends that's why she doesn't want to be alone.

She is also hurting herself when being with this guy. I really wish to understand the meaning of staying with him. She doesn't understand why so things will be harder to be figured out.

Actually this guy have done some bad things to her and I came to a conclusion that she wants to be with me first before she leave him so that she will hurt him.

Should I wait at least 2 weeks?