A different kind of bond...what's it all about?

Hi, Jay Dubb! I think you have the right idea, even if the woman of your dreams isn't there yet. I'd like to fall in love with someone who is a good friend to me too. It's better becouse you know that you can truly share your life together, since you make great friends and parteners. I like to think that the affection I would feel for this person would turn in to love and then it would still be a deep feeling, even if the passion wasn't like in the begining.
Maybe the best way is to see if you and this person can laugh together and joke around while you are still friends. It could help you realise if you can connect well romanticaly and still keep eachother entertained after you have been in a relationship for a lond time. Just my thoughts.

Hi Jay Dub,
Speaking from experience and a woman's point of view, you would be a GREAT catch. OMG that is what I definitely want. I didn't realize that was what I had in my first marriage, I made the mistake of thinking we just became friends and nothing more and man, I look back on it now and say what did I do and why did I let that wonderfully awesome relationship go away. When you do find it, just remember to never let the romance part die, don't be angry if she is wanting to be held and just hugged instead of having sex, be her friend at those times and her lover at others. Don't forget the chase has never ended. And most importantly don't be fake and try to impress, be YOU always. She has to love you for who you truely are. You will have a great life together. I am in the opposite type of relationship now and it just totally sucks, I don't have a friend, I can't talk to him without being condemned and that relationship is failing quickly. He put on a total show at the beginning and once we married, he went back to who he truely was, what a shock, I didn't even know this man.
I am totally impressed by your ability to stand back and look at the past and realize what you want. You will get it. I am 35 and I will never believe that its not possible at that age to have a relationship like that again. And at 38 you are just beginning on life and a ton past the other guys who are still immature and can't look back and see what they really want and need in life. WOW to you!!! Good luck to you, you definitely have the right idea.

dont take this the wrong way , but your prayer .. just made me throw up , a little bit , in my mouth.

look not to god for a woman, look to life