Chronic immune desease and dated a widower

Hello,
I need advise. I am not english speaker so please forgive me if a make mistakes.
I dated a Young widower (40) after being single for a couple of years. He told me about his late woman dying from cancer in our first date. Also, I was honest about my health and told him I have weekly appointments, recent bone marrow biopsies, etc...because I live with ITP
We dated during 2 weeks and 5 dates, It seemed fast. Last date I told him about petechiae and that I was worried of a platelet drop. He told me he is not well when I Talk about my illness and doctors...i asked him why and he told me that's because all he suffered that with his late woman.
And the Next day he told me he wasnt sure to continue dating because of that

I am very very sad. I my ITP is part of my Life since 11 years old, now I am 39. I managed yo study and have a good career and job. I told him my Life expectancy with ITP under control is the same as anybody..and that he could see how independent I am

I dont know what to do. I like him a lot, I even read a lot to understand his grieve since he told me he's a widower. I knew It is a challenge to start a relationship with him but I accepted that, I didnt think about my chronic condition being a problem

Thank you. Hugs and kisses

Given the circumstance, the best advice I can give is to sit down and talk with him at length, with the objective being that he makes up his mind or you both come up with a plan to move step by step and keep each other informed on how you are feeling about this particular issue.

What I wouldn't do is to allow him to vacillate too long. Too often I have seen these kinds of things turn into one or the other allowing themselves to get want what they want in the relationship while still being "undecided". That is selfishness at best and manipulation and abuse at worst.

If he wants a real relationship then he has to be strong enough to work this out one way or the other. I'm not saying he needs to decide over night but it shouldn't take him long.

Hope this helps.

O.