Advice: Coping with Family Arguments

I find myself in a challenging situation and could use some advice. My family members are often embroiled in arguments/argue/swear with each other, and they frequently turn to me to vent their frustrations and share their viewpoints ( you know he/she told me that...did that; you have to be on my side because you are my sister/ my/our child, tell them/him he/they do/does wrong...etc). I f eel hurt and overwhelmed by being put in the middle of family arguments.

It’s not fair to be made me to feel wrong for any perceived partiality, especially when I am trying to navigate a difficult situation

They argue with each other, but in the end, I suffer. I am somehow wrong because I am on one side with some of them. They don’t even understand how I feel afterwards, that I can spend the whole evening just sitting by myself and crying. It hurts me. This constant conflict is taking a toll on me; I end up feeling drained, upset and even depressed after these interactions.

I understand that every family has its dynamics, but I’m struggling to cope with the negativity and the pressure to take sides. It’s becoming increasingly difficult to maintain my own emotional balance.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? How do you handle being caught in the middle of family disputes? Should I distance myself from my family temporarily? Any suggestions on how to navigate this without alienating my loved ones or compromising my mental health would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I am in this situation right now. Or, I should say, I was presented with this situation and I have dealt with it.

You absolutely should take a break. I notified everyone telling them that I loved them but needed to step away for my own sake. That in itself caused some grief. But it was infinitely better than where it has been (having to listen to all the anger).

But you must stick to your own rules. I have seen others take this position and then occasionally listen to one person or the other.

I stopped because I realized that I was enabling some of the anger because I was simply listening thus giving some of their outrageous behavior validity.

Good luck.

I had very bad experience of family drama, as a child. Every day an argument and I had to choose my side even when I was 4 years old.
You are trapped in their drama and there is no space for you. Or at least for me. No interest for what happens to you, no no, just their futile argument.

Otter is right, to be safe one needs to take distance. And to reassure them in a way. To avoid to become yourself the drama

OP, It's not fair what they are doing to you. Please take care of yourself, take distance and consider life outside them.