My underage friend is defending grown adults who dated her

Recently my friend (16F) told me about her past of dating two people (22M and 27M), she even said that she would have had sex with one of those guys if her mom hadn't stopped her. I told her that those guys were terrible people who were exploiting her age, but she started to argue with me. She told me that they were nice and that she was the one who flirted first and harderst. I told her about power dynamics and how victims tend to protect the abuser, but she got really mad at me. She told me that it was none of my business and it was her choice and that when she told her friends, they mostly ignored it. I repeatedly told her that I had nothing against her and I respected her and understood her choices and feelings, but she said that I had disrespected her by "dissing" the men she dated, even though I never really said anything extreme about them. I feel worried for her since she's clearly the type of naive and gullible person that is most likely to experience abuse. When she was drunk she told me she wanted to have sex with me and I told her no since it would be rape under the influence, but she didn't seem to take it seriously. She's also a misogynist and highly sexual, so I see why she may not take these problems as seriously, but she's become less misogynistic when I confronted her and talked to her. She's still upset at me for criticizing those adults she dated and I stopped confronting her since she was ignoring me. I feel guilty for not being able to convince her how bad a 27 year old dating a 16 year old is. She clearly likes me and is close with me, but she got really angry and heated due to this. I'm 16 too and I don't know what to do. Am I a bad person in this situation? What should I do?

Hello and welcome!

For now let's try this in Relationships. It's unclear as to whether she was abused by those two people, or to what degree she was groomed, or if she was.

No, nothing in this post states that you're a bad person for protecting your friend. It's always necessary to look out for any suspicious, sketchy people in your life. Hopefully your friend comes to her senses and changes her mind.

You have done what you can. You are not wrong to try and help her and you are not the bad person in this situation.

Your friend is not a bad person either, she is just out of control and making bad decisions.

However, it's time to ask yourself how much of this you can take. If you can keep trying to help and feel comfortable doing so, then do. If you don't want to keep confronting her what place do you want to be in her life?

Yes, there are many men out there who will use her. I know someone in her late teens who had a relationship with a man in his late twenties. Now she has permanent sexually transmitted disease (STD). When she approached him and asked him why he didn't tell her, he just laughed.

I hope her Mom can help. This is the age in which so many people play with fire. Some make it through, some get permanent burns and scars, others still, suffer a worse fate.

Good luck with this. Please take care of yourself first. You can't help her if this starts to affect your mental health.

Otter.