Boyfriend with Paranoid Personality Disorder

Hello all! I am dating someone who has a mild paranoid disorder, he is not violent or aggressive. We were together for 6 months, he slept at my house almost every day, we had a great time together. A very nice and calm relationship. In the beginning he was much more closed and distant but over time he softened and was very warm, he told me how much he appreciated me and that he feels very good with me and he likes that because he never feels so close to people. Until one day he suffered his first episode of paranoid disorder (first I mean in the time we were together). It happened as follows: he was talking to me about his job and he was very disappointed and when I told him, if you feel so bad, quit and find another one, he went crazy! He told me that I also want his bad and that I am telling him to leave his job. After a few hours he got up, gathered all his things and before leaving I said to him "what happened to you? what did I do to you?" And he told me I don't feel well at all, sorry it's not your fault but I have issues and I'm not in a good state. I'm leaving and maybe we'll talk again. Since then, almost 2 weeks have passed since he disappeared.

I think about him, I want to know what he is doing, but I hesitate to call him. I thought I'd just let him take his time to collect himself and think. But I don't know what is the right thing to do. How long does a panic attack last? Has he gotten over it and just deleted me like that from his life? Does he never want to talk to me again? Or does he take it as indifference that I haven't spoken to him at all for 2 weeks now? I honestly don't know how to act and what to think.
Thank you very much in advance for reading it. Any advice welcome )

Hello!

How long does a panic attack last? Has he gotten over it and just deleted me like that from his life? Does he never want to talk to me again? Or does he take it as indifference that I haven't spoken to him at all for 2 weeks now?

I don't think these questions can be answered with any assurance because the motives for why people act this way vary greatly from person to person, regardless of their disorder. For instance, I have Bipolar Disorder (BP). But if you were to read on paper the history of my behavior over the last 10 years, you might think that I don't have BP, etc.

I assume he told you about his issues himself. But he may have other issues that he doesn't even know of, that contribute to how he is behaving.

At any rate, here is my advice. Is there a way you can contact him that doesn't have the immediacy of talking on the phone, like e-mail? I say this because you can then freely ask questions without him feeling like you are cornering him into a situation that could cause more aggravation for him and leave you more confused.

Whatever the case, if he does come back, you have to realize that this sort of behavior might be repeated, or something like it. I am glad he is self-aware, but there are limits to the control we can gain over our illness even if we are self-aware and do the best we can.

Good luck.