After 6 months GF refuses to share her address?

I met a young lady (30yrs old) while traveling in Europe. We exchanged numbers and communicated by Whatsapp basically every single day for nearly six months, including thousands of text messages and hundreds of hours on the phone. She flew to the USA and spent nearly a week with me and then I flew to visit her in Chicago where her mother lives. We stayed together for nearly a week at a hotel. She spent one night in my bed in my town (we just slept, no intimacy). Then in Chicago we did have intimate relations. That was two weeks ago. Now she is back in Europe and she came down with Covid. I asked for her address, stating if something ever happened it would be good to know this, e.g., if there was ever the need to call an ambulance. She refused to give me her address. Previously, she refused to tell me her last name....for nearly 5 months! Not until we were in Chicago did she finally tell me her last name. Also, she doesn't let me take photos of her face (despite being attractive and something normally done while traveling/vacationing). Friends and family are concerned, saying when she refused to tell me her last name, "she might be a serial killer for all you know." On the other hand, from the outset, she knew my name, where I lived, my education background, career, etc. She is gets very angry when I say I want to know her address considering the point in the relationship we are at (e.g., talking about having a child together. She says "half my family does not know my address and my prior boyfriends didn't know my address." Now, I know she comes from a broken home and says if her father died she wouldn't care. But how am I to process this? Is this person's trust issues so deep that a real relationship can't be had with them? Should I stay in a relationship with a woman who says she doesn't trust me (even though I've never harmed a person or animal, etc., in my life) when she has no rational basis her trust issue with me? I mean, I've slept with this woman, communicated every day with her for six months, and she refuses to tell me her address? What should I do?

Hi Valorium!

This situation is unusual. Maybe she had an experience of other relationships with the guy who stalked her and now she afraid to give her address to anybody? This is may be the reason why she called her last name afther she saw you in the reality. Have you discussed your relationships with each other?

You said that she does not trust you and she told it herself. Did she tell you why?

All in all, there should be a long conversation between you two in this situation. Hope everything will be fine. The worst thing you can face with is that she has a huge secret.

I hate to say it, but me wonders if she doesn't have a fella back home.

Donnyy wrote:Hi Valorium!

This situation is unusual. Maybe she had an experience of other relationships with the guy who stalked her and now she afraid to give her address to anybody? This is may be the reason why she called her last name afther she saw you in the reality. Have you discussed your relationships with each other?

You said that she does not trust you and she told it herself. Did she tell you why?

All in all, there should be a long conversation between you two in this situation. Hope everything will be fine. The worst thing you can face with is that she has a huge secret.

Thanks for the input. She's never mentioned any prior bad experiences. As for telling me her name, we met in person at first where we talked for an hour or two. So this did not start off like an internet dating thing. She has said she doesn't trust me because, in her view, I had too many prior girlfriends. To which I responded, I had a life before I met her and even if so, what would that have to do with giving me her address? We've had long conversations. She just says I'm being "controlling" when I ask her for her address. Funny, but I've never had this issue with anyone else before her.

Something is hinky here- she's suspicious because of your past history, yet she has slept with you? Yeah no.

Valorium wrote:

Donnyy wrote:Hi Valorium!

This situation is unusual. Maybe she had an experience of other relationships with the guy who stalked her and now she afraid to give her address to anybody? This is may be the reason why she called her last name afther she saw you in the reality. Have you discussed your relationships with each other?

You said that she does not trust you and she told it herself. Did she tell you why?

All in all, there should be a long conversation between you two in this situation. Hope everything will be fine. The worst thing you can face with is that she has a huge secret.

Thanks for the input. She's never mentioned any prior bad experiences. As for telling me her name, we met in person at first where we talked for an hour or two. So this did not start off like an internet dating thing. She has said she doesn't trust me because, in her view, I had too many prior girlfriends. To which I responded, I had a life before I met her and even if so, what would that have to do with giving me her address? We've had long conversations. She just says I'm being "controlling" when I ask her for her address. Funny, but I've never had this issue with anyone else before her.

Hi
Sounds to me in my past experience she is projecting her own infidelity onto you.
Im with the poster who said sounds like there is another guy.