The Confused Sexual Male Mind – Ladies, Please Help.

THE CONFUSED SEXUAL MALE MIND – LADIES, PLEASE HELP.

Dead Ladies,
I apologize in advance if the following three (3) questions/statements come across as ignorant/ childish/ disrespectful/biased/judgmental/stupid.

I am GENUINELY curious about Women’s sexuality for the sole purpose of having more sexual interactions with women, consensually. Please note that I am a firm advocate in ensuring your partner (the woman, as I am a man) feels safe, comfortable, and satisfied during any sexual intercourse. I have always placed importance in making her happy before I do. Call it traditional chivalry if you want but I have always enjoyed pleasing others first.

Please bear with me as this WILL be a long read (almost 10 mins to read and perhaps another 15 minutes to answer.), however, I think this will help a LOT of men like me to understand women better and give up all the tricks, games, strategies to “get laid.”

I have broken some of the confusion separately as three (3) questions, a perspective from a man and why it is confusing. You will see what I mean as you read.
Lastly, when I say “as a man” or “as men” in the following quest
ions, I am not speaking for all men, just men like me who is extremely sexual.

Also, by the end of this, you probably might suggest that I seek professional help. I sometimes think I am a sex addict with uncontrollable compulsions. But let us leave that for another time.

QUESTION 1: THE CLOTHING

As a man, when I feel like am physically attractive and confident, I would like to flaunt it by showing more skin (muscle), tattoos, great clothes, and style. Although getting female attention is one of the main goals, ultimately, I am hoping it leads to SEX, or at the very least, fooling around if the situation does not permit sex.

WHY I AM CONFUSED….

Some women do wear revealing clothing, and I am not talking about fitting clothes or a crop top, I am talking about low cut tops that expose the cleavage, a lot of mid body skin exposed, shorts that are almost exposing the butt cheeks. In my head I am thinking, well, looks like she wants attention….and if I follow the male perspective of the mind, she wants sex, which is why she is wearing that type of clothing.
But that is not the case (or at least I think), I have heard that women say they dress like that just to feel sexy or feel good. (What does that mean?)

MY QUESTION ON CLOTHING:

Do women dress with revealing clothes just to feel good in their clothes, perhaps gain attention and it stops there? …or do they actually want sex just like men but ONLY with the type of man they are attracted to and want to have sex with.
 
QUESTION 2: PHYSICAL CONTACT
As a man, when a woman touches my hand, smacks my butt, plays with my hair, talks dirty to me, touches my chest, or even go to the extent of fondling, I ENJOY IT and WELCOME IT.
It does not matter if I know you for 10 years or just 1 day. The more attractive you are, the more I want it. I fantasize about it even as I am speaking to you.
However, for Women it is not the same (or is it?). I have noticed that for women, even if the man is a super-hot hunk, she may get totally offended and even extremely MAD for the fact that he tried to do anything remotely close to the acts I mentioned above.

WHERE I AM CONFUSED…

When I hang-out with my female friends, I was surprised at how much they talk about SEX. Sharing their fantasies with each other when they see hot guys on a show or checking out good-looking men. Dare I say that my female friends speak about SEX or the topics surrounding SEX way more than me and my male friends. This compels me to conclude that Women want sex as much as men do and have equally explicit fantasies like men. The notion that women only want sex after getting an emotional connection with someone or must be in a long-term relationship first does not seem to appear in any of the conversations. It is RAW desire for sexual experience, like men want. (Or so I think).

MY QUESTION ON PHYSICAL CONTACT

Why do women get upset when men (even extremely attractive ones) make a physical move towards them when in hindsight they seem to have equally amounts of sexual desires?

Or are women actually open to the physical contact but ONLY to certain men that they are attracted to?

Or does the whole emotional aspect and commitment come into play as well?

NOTE: Please forgive me if this question comes across as being inconsiderate to women sexuality and boundaries. I truly am confused and narrow minded at the moment.

QUESTION 3: SEXUAL TRIGGERS FOR WOMEN

I have heard that looks, money, fame, great body, status is not the end all to get a woman wanting to have sex with you. I have heard that confidence, caring attitude, kindness, politeness, and sincerity is what gets a woman wanting to have sex with you. However, I think ALL the above plays a role depending on what the approach is.

If it is to have a relationship that includes commitment, then kindness, caring attitude, politeness, sincerity outweighs good looks, fame, money, great body, and status.
If it is to have only plain raw sexual experiences (casual sex, one-night stands, friends with benefits) then I think it is a mix of good looks, great body, confidence, a thrilling personality, humor, kindness, and sincerity.

MY QUESTION ON FEMALE SEXUAL TRIGGERS

Am I correct to make the assumptions above? If not, please elaborate to help me understand.

……and that is it. That is all the questions that I have. Thank you for reading and I really hope you spend time to really put some thought into your answers. Again, I am humbled by my ignorance but curious to learn and understand from WOMEN and not STUDS.
Thank You.