Struggle

Hello everyone. I am going throw a really hard time. My boyfriend left me almost 3 months ago. We were friends and worked together for 10 years before being together. I think you had a good relationship as we are very similar in many things. I was so in love with him that I was terrified by the idea of losing him. So I started acting crazy and seeking drama all the time. He got tired of me and left me in April. None of us is still working at the same place and I am going throw some hard times in my life, being jobless and having family problems. He is trying to be suportive and shows that he cares about me as a human being. We speak every day and see each other a lot. Think is he acts like we never were a couple and this is devastating for me. We even went on a weekend with his sister and a week ago he invited me for lunch at his apartment. I didn't accepted the invitations as that is the apartement he asked me to move in some months ago and its very painful to me going there as a guest. But not for him. He says that we shouldn't talk about our relationship because its really over, and this is what he is saying to everyone even common friends. But I dont understand. How is it so easy for him to be around me and ask me out as a friend? Is it normal that it doesn't bother him being around me like that?

I don't understand as this is not a typical break up and I am still hopeful, but he seems to have make up his mind and speaks to me as a friend. Is it possible that he forgot about everything just like that?

I find two things make someone be able to "forget" about everything just like that. Either he really really has had enough of your drama truly and he "snapped out" of the emotional haze, that seems to exist in any relationship or there is another girl he's interested in. The girl option obviously works in conjunction with the first to make it easier to snap out of the haze. Though it would seem odd for him to continue to want to be around you so soon after, if he really was fed up with your drama. But then it would be equally odd for him to have his ex hanging around if he was courting or interested in another girl. That leaves at least one other option. People can be sh*tty, maybe there is another interest of his but maybe it's not for sure or whatever so he is keeping you around, just in case.

Only time will tell, you will keep driving yourself crazy in the meantime, so perhaps you should avoid doing that to yourself and pick one course of action and stick to it and be patient and see what happens but prepare yourself for all possibilities so you don't end up going extra crazy if an unpleasant reality is revealed. Remember, you're in a haze too...it's like being drunk in that when you're drunk, you can't NOT be drunk, you eventually sober up and it depends on how much you drank, ate, etc etc the same way you can't BE drunk if you are sober, you have to actually drink something and put it into effect. Just remember everyone sobers up eventually, level of hangovers are a different story though.

Good luck

Thank you for the reply. I know I have to do something and that this situation is going to hurt me even more. But the think is I am not ready to let him go right now. I find out a few days ago that my father, the most important person in my life has cancer. I am suffering a lot so I dont think its healthy for me to cut my ex from my life right now. I know I need from him more that he can give but right now I am going through a lot