Dating Anxiety - Thinking/Feeling attraction

Hi guys,

hope everyone's doing good

I need some help please, I am a massive over-thinker, have been suffering major anxiety and losing a lot of sleep recently over this:

I have been seeing a girl for a few weeks now and I really like her, when we first met I couldn't stop telling her how beautiful she was but then suddenly I started to have thoughts that she is not attractive and these thoughts are dominating my mind now to the point where I am considering finishing with her. I'm so confused though because I want to see her and spend time with her and I think about her alot, which surely suggests some attraction, yet the conscious thoughts are not mirroring it.

I'd like to add that this has happened with pretty much every girl I have ever dated, it's like as soon as I get close to someone I doubt my feelings and become overwhelmed by negative thoughts which lead to guilt, and so I end the relationship to avoid hurting the other person.

I am thinking and thinking constantly and I haven't slept very well for the past two months. I don't know what to do: I'm scared that I could end a potentially great relationship, but at the same time I don't want to mess someone around

Any help you guys can offer would be so appreciated; I do see a therapist but she isn't free until next week!

Of course, 'beauty' in the other person is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it can help. May I ask why you believe you are even dating girls?

Instead of breaking up with yet another girl, you could just say that you have a lot of study / work upcoming and will just take a break for a week or 2. AT least this may help to break the cycle of dating / breaking-up that you have.