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I am at a loss for words...

Postby Overtherainbow90 » Sat Feb 16, 2019 9:31 pm

Hello everyone, sorry for any errors that may occur. I am 28 years old and my boyfriend (or ex, I don't know...) is 25. I am European and he is West african. We got togheter 8 months ago. Our relationship was very intense and I really loved him. He told me that I was the first girl he opened up to and I think he loved me, he also told me many times; he has a lot of problems opening himself up, he doesn't talk about his problems at all. Also, he get offended VERY VERY easely. I started our relationship after almost 3 years single. I suffer from anxiety ,depression and low self esteem but I am so much better now thanks to therapy. So, this past Monday (11 th of February) we had sex , but the condom broke...I was very scared and started crying, he didn't say anything to help me out or cheer me up. He NEVER talk during arguments, but we RARELY had arguments! The main problem is that he doesn't talk so I don't know what he is thinking, especially during an argument. He isn't capable of helping when you are emotionally down. He is a very , I'd say "raw" person. I guess I justified him too much because of his life story (he came from Africa to live here and start a new life). I also guess that I overrated him (I don't know if I can say this in English) and I also guess that I just wanted to be loved and love. I took the morning after pill by the way... So, after I went to the pharmacy he basically (while never talking...) stormed off and went home!!! he took the subway and left me at the station. Keep in mind that during this argument after sex (which basically WASN'T an argument) I DIDN'T insult him, I just asked for some compassion and help because I was scared...he only said that crying isn't a solution and that I was acting like a baby. So I was very sad. He doens't talk during discussions or confrontation!! So basically after he left me alone I sent him an audio which said " since you left me alone like a dog in the street, we will never see each other again!" but I was angry! I think is normal during an argument to be angry! I wanted to make him understand that I too, want to be supported when in need; he replied me :"fine, you will be more happy and at peace if we never see each other". 2 days later I wrote to him " I was angry because you stormed off and left me alone, don't take my words literally, I know you did and that you are offended." He didn't reply but he has read it. Then later in the day I wrote him again "ok. I really care about our relationship and I don't want to lose it. It can happen to argue strongly sometimes. I fell so bad when we argue. You are free to believe me or not. Have a good day." He still hasn't replied. So I basically said sorry even if he was wrong, in my opinion. I always contacted him first after a discussion (rarely happened btw to discuss). I am afraid to call him because I know he has left me. I mean he got offended because I said to break things off, but it was clear I was angry! didn't mean to left him, I was angry that's it. Also, how can you break things off in such a way??? I mean we didn't even talk !!! Also, if you love a person, how can you lose love after less than 2 days?? He made an Instagram story with a stupid beak up song. wft. He is so emotionally immature. I know I have non existent self esteem, I feel trash and a loser because I am an over sensitive person and I always suffer. Also, with him I was always extremely calm and kind, caring and loving, because I wanted things to go very well since I suffered a lot after my last relationship. I need advice from you guys.
Summary: me (28) and my boyfriend (25) argued after condom broke during sex. I started crying because I was scared, he basically was like a stone and after I bought the pill he stormed off and left me alone. I sent him a vocal message telling him that we won't see each other again (I was angry that he didn't support me) he replied : good, you will be better off without me. I sent a text 2 days later saying that I dind't mean those words, I was just angry and he didn't reply. He is acting like we ended our relationship . Do you think he may reply soon?
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Re: I am at a loss for words...

Postby Overtherainbow90 » Sun Feb 17, 2019 12:56 pm

EDIT: I resolved the situation ! No help needed anymore
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