I feel like I have avoidant traits, and I am also just very shy. I have realised its not the act of sex itself which I find scary, or nudity or anything like that.... I have had a vaginal ultrasound and was completely cool with it, but it's the emotional intimacy which sex creates, that I'm scared of. Why this is a problem is that I've met someone who I really like, and I want to overcome this fear so there can actually be a physical element to the relationship. Do you think explaining to him how I feel and the issues I have would help? And that maybe I should tell him to take the initiative to try and help me overcome this fear? Also, does anyone have experience with this issue more broadly? And does the fear go away after you have become more experienced?
Thanks
