Dealing with a narc (dark triad I think) at work.

There is this woman at work, who tried hard to become my friend from day 1. She is incredibly charming, fun, can easily find connection with almost anyone.
I noticed things about her from the beginning, that were really off. But I was unaware of all this info (personalities disorders) before. I even remember thinking a few times, it felt like she was trying to harm me. Though she is always super nice with me, like a best friend.
At some point my brain wasn't fogged and I distanced myself from her. After some time we started working together a lot again and when you spend a lot of time with someone and this person is all around nice and helpful, you start trusting her.

Recently I made a huge mistake. I opened up to her about my financial hardship and that I have to keep this job for longer, than I wished. Also shared, that my bills became higher, due to some events and my AC broke...That things are not looking good for me at the moment in general.

After I worked with her last time, it seems like the things got suddenly incredibly worse at work. I was never friends with anybody there in general, but there was some mutual understanding: we work together, respect each other, we don't have to be friends.

Last couple weeks were nightmare. I am guessing, she spread the rumors about me, that I am involved with my boss and that I am his snitch. At the same time she told something to my boss, that he is kinda "attacking" me again. I see some weird looks from my co-workers.

I know, there is no point in confronting her, it will only make things worse.

But how to deal with this situation in general? Honestly, I kinda know, that I just need to ignore the BS and wait it out and then escape. I really just needed to share this with someone, who understands. I feel like the world just came down on me.

Theres no facts here, only guesswork. You also sound paranoid. Are you in treatment?

Edit: is any of that true? And why do you think she is saying that?

You feel like this colleague is trying to harm you, although you say she's just being friendly. You think your other co-workers are talking about you behind your back and giving you funny looks. And you believe your boss' attitude towards you is somehow connected to all of it. Agree with Akuma, it does sound a bit paranoid.

What reason would this colleague have for wanting to cause you harm? Why do you think rumors are being spread about you and your boss? And what does it mean that your boss is attacking you -- again?

This is really funny, bunch of narcs responded. Damn, I attract them even online

caterpillar777 wrote:This is really funny, bunch of narcs responded. Damn, I attract them even online

Yes, you have that certain....je ne sais quoi. We find it irresistible.

So what is the evidentiary basis for this belief?

caterpillar777 wrote:This is really funny, bunch of narcs responded. Damn, I attract them even online

Difference between us and you is that we are aware that we have an illness. You seem pretty convinced still that thinking youre the center of the universe and having loads of paranoid ideations is perfectly normal. Plus you come to a forum for people with NPD and then its somehow hard to understand for you that pwNPD answer, because like every other problem of yours you have the essential conviction it cant be caused by you.
Good luck with getting better.

Quoth wrote:So what is the evidentiary basis for this belief?

Who are you, that I need to prove anything to you? A judge? lol Don't think so. I am here to get info and advice. If you have no expertise in this, keep walking...

That wasn’t polite, OP. Why should people here respond to you when you’re being rude?