24 y-o never been kissed, terrified of rejection how to stop

I think its amazing how close your situation is to mine. I've never had a boyfriend, but I've told people I've had many. People believe me because I'm very social in my school, outgoing, and not to sound conceited, but pretty. I use to be deathly afriad of the whole relationship thing, not really what he thought on dates, but what his friends thought and what he would think when his friends talked to him. I guess you could say I worried too much.

My advice is to try and "center" yourself. Yeah it sounds stupid. But I had so much frustration with this, I didn't actually start improving until I stopped myself and thought about it. Be an optomist...know that you're not alone, and the reason why you don't hear about this much is because people are ashamed too. They lie ALL the time about relationships. People won't admit they've never had a boyfriend because they are afraid of being judged. Just know that you can get better, some people are late bloomers.

Now with the kissing thing...this may be wrong, and I'm not reccomending it at all, but when I wanted to kiss someone, and I was tired of feeling like I was judged, I just went to a party and got wasted and just hooked up there. If you're a bad kisser, blame it on the beer. ha that may not be right, but that's how I did it. You don't wanna get caught in a bad situation.

Keep a book and vent into it when you're upset, I know its hard to start late because you're expected to be experienced by the time you're 16. But everyone's situation is different...and now I feel a lot better, I'm going out on dates and not caring so much. When you get into the swing of things everything will be so much better. Good luckkkk!

You know what? I'm a late bloomer too.
My friends were all having boyfriend after boyfried and I was there, being a third wheel, never-been-kissed, never had a boyfriend.

I desparately wanted a boyfriend, but I had my eye on other guys than the guys who showed interest and even when I did like a guy who showed interest, I would give him the cold shoulder.

I saw this guy at my friend's bithday once and I froze. Something in my mind said: "this is the one you're going to marry". I was so deathly afraid and I constantly avoided him the whole evening. I had thousands of excuses why not to talk to him.

He was on a different campus than me, 300km away, but he came every weekend after that to see me, but I didn't want anything to do with him. How crazy! He was attractive, smart, funny, sweet, studying to become a doctor, what was not to like? But I rejected him anyway.

9 months later we met again on a 3 week outreach into Africa. And I just fell madly in love with him! See, I had time to think after I told him not to come see me anymore and I realised that it was because of something deep inside me that was afraid of relationships. I will not go into the details, but I decided that that will not ruin my life any more.

I have been dating him for over 2 years now and I've never been happier.

He was also my first kiss and I was terrified, but it didn't matter. It's actually very special that he have been the only guy I've ever kissed. My friends are actually jealous of me! They've all had numerous boyfriends and kissed guys since way back when, but they envy me, because I was so much more mature than they were with their first kisses and I could feel much deeper than they could then.

What I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't just go and kiss any guy just to be kissed. It is so much more special when you kiss someone you actually love.

Find out what your issues are, work through them and then find a loving boyfriend who will not look down on you because you are inexperienced, but who will see you as an unopened present that he will treasure.

I know we live in a broken world, but there are great guys out there who aren't just looking for an object, but who are looking for a deep relationship. Those are the guys that girls like you deserve.