I got alot of issues ... alot being an understatment in my opinion, but i could be wrong, i will let you decide after reading the whole thing.
OK here it goes: I am a 25 year old guy that didnt had any relationships till now. Yea i know weird right? you would think any retard can find some kind of love or affection from a girl atleast once, know what? i couldnt .
I do not consider myself to be ugly ... realisticly speaking , compared to some chimpmunks i saw havin some gorgeous girlfriends, but yea ( i'll let u know from now that "but" will be a keyword in this post) im not the prettiest flower in the garden so to speak.
First order of the day : LACK OF CONFIDENCE this is my number 1 problem, i think, and it seems im lackin it more and more as the days pass I know its not correct to start a sentence with "but", BUT this problem... *lack of confidence" doesn't roll alone it seems, it has a few friends "fear of rejection" and the more twisted "i dont care mask" that stores inside me every dark emotion i ever had. (don't know if its crushing me inside but ill get to that). lol remembered 1 more as i was typin lower in the page... yea its important ... i tend to "fall inlove" or atleast develop feeling for pretty much everything that shows me more then 10 minutes of importance.
Ok, i will try to give some details about each problem individualy but ofc its like a loophole and eventualy ull see them interacting as 1.
As u pretty much noticed till now i am shy... so as u imagine found it a pain to find my balls and go tell my first real crush that i like her... Failed.. took me 1 whole year to do it ... by the time i decided that i will tell her 100% of my classmates knew that i was droolin over her, includin herself... so ya went to her told her "my problem" the answer was kinda to be expected but it seemed like she lied a little .. " i like u .. i know u you like me a lot, i had a crush on you for like 3 months saw u didnt make a move ...so i moved on" a? sounds legit ? i will let you decide that.
Why my first crush was a classmate you ask? fear of rejection, thats wai.. To be honest never happened to fall in love with a girl that i saw for the first time.. naa IM NOT KIND OF GUY heh... and if it did happen, just sayin.. donno got a pretty bad memory .. i would always try to interact with them... cause yea i i find it kinda inapropriate to go to a girl that i've just met and tell her " hey i find u very atractive and funny , lets go out sometime".. wont happen.... if i think about it doesnt seem so hard.... but it is. (spoiler alert. new issue comin in)
A big round of applausse for ... our all star.... the Friendship appears.. yea who would had guessed... You wouldnt believe how well i interact with girls... on a friendship level.. its a thing i have, i think, for some weird reason girls find me thrustworthy and have a high level of confidence, discussing all their problems with me...and this has 2 sides. its awesome that they trust me enough to talk all this things .. and believe me ... heard some weird things BUT this never leads to me ending up with any of this girls... it seems have a secret code or something that bans them from dating people that know how they feel. I would had guessed thats the other way around .. would be easier to build a relationship after we discussed our issues right? but meeh what do i know .. im the 1 with the issues. So yea every girl that i get a crush on ends up being a good friend " i like you very much .. got feelings for you but i dont want to ruin our friendship and what a beatiful friendship we have" ( kinda exagerated with the last part but hey.... w/e more drama )yea yea i know some other sweetbullcrap for "you're weird dont want to have anythin to do with you. Now a new "dude comes to scene"... i start to detach myself from that person.. slowly slowly... i don't go all the way... HOPE enteres the room... My twisted brain catches some faded signals ... it seems .. imo pure imagination.. that my "friend" shows signs of affection.. and the loophole starts again... till things go cold ( it eventualy happens everytime... i crush the bridge) and i end up alone yet again.
Moving on... "fear of rejection" or paranoia. After failing 2-3 times in gettin a girl to have a relationship with me paranoia appeared. Lets say i find a girl...she is awesome ... cute funny smart... she could be flirting with me like crazy and i wouldnt notice (yea i know lol ... but you would be surprised how many times it happened to me) or i notice but won't do anything.. .. "what if it's just me ... neah she can't be interested in a douche like me (hello lack of confidence.. nice that you could attend) " or even weirder " she is playing with me ...just having a laugh.. playing with my feelings ( which if i would give this thought just 1 sec i would realize how retarded it sounds...or does it???)
Lets talk a little about how fast i "fall inlove"... K from my perspective .. this issue is a byproduct of the earlier mentioned issues + another twisted thing ( said "but" will be the key word... but hey don't blame me .. it's not like have a checklist to confront ... writing as it comes). Seems im especially atracted to girls that have the same problem ... more or less.. yea imet girlsthat have bigger issues then me .. and no it didn't go well.
Bet you are thinking "Dang dude ur on a whole new level of cucu" and you are prolly right. Itrovertite meets introvertite... lets see how this will go. This thing happened recently 7-8 months ago ... and its happening all over again now with a different girl. Usually starts simple (ooh at this point i should mention that more then 40% of the confiding happens on the webchat/phone calls or sms....(surprised any1? doubt it)... talkin little things but as the discussion evolves we start talkin about everything ... in the most cases they talk i just aprove and say my point of view. SO most of the barriers are down we talk freely about anything ...and that turns on the " i think i'm into this girl" alert and with small steps... ninja style i try to see if she shares the same feelings. (small baby turtle steps). Now it becomes interesting ... i will start going back and foward if i should tell her how i feel or i should wait a little more maybe ill see a sign... (yea right) but meanwhile i do something .... i will try to help this girl find her selfconfidence.... get her out of her shell... make her interact more with people .. probably has to do with the fact that i want to be helped aswell... so im thinkin that if i try to help her maybe some1 will do the same for me ...(never happened) + i hope that maybe she will loosen up and will tell me "dude i like you" ( never happened ) well it did happen but lol .. take a sit ... i hit the wall once again, IF I'M NOT INTO YOU, I CAN'T SEE YOU..... yea soo weird as it seems some actualy girls had a crush on me ... or so i heard... but as i mention earlier never done anythin about it.
Think i should talk about the emotions builiding inside of me . As u noticed i'm very bad at expressing myself so i store everythin inside me but as i mentioned in the first lines doesn't "seem" to affect me too much... I developed a awesome shield.... its set on auto defense... don't have control over it. I started not caring .. most likely it's just a big fat lie that i created but whatever ... works.... more or less... I don't care if u hit me in the face, beat the crap out of me ... call me names or any other thing that goes in this category... and started to be a dick.... with who u may ask? with the ppl close to me (thats a short list) but fortunaly enough they get it... and still stick around for the show.. donno maybe they except some big fireworks at the end and who knows maybe there will be some. BUT if i get ignored .. dang dude my world implodes ( attention whore much? yea) .
OK i think i summarized most of the problems .. atleast the ones that i ment to discuss.
What do i expect now? Guidance... Walkthrough i imagine there must be some1 that is qualified to show me how to (hmm wanted to say "improve" but can't improve somethin that doesnt exist (reffering to selfconfidence) ) deal with this issues and hopefully supress them or atleast use them in my advantage OR atleast to tell me dang ur too ###$ up no chance for ya
Now lets start with the apologies.
1 english is not my spoken language so don't criticize my grammar or the way i express myself .. i think if you want to understand what i wrote you will understand.
2 I know there will be alot of negative feed from some of you ... yea i like to make fun of some1 elses problem as much as you do.. and im fine with that .. i dont care what you say.. if it makes you feel better then say it

3 Maybe i started an idea and i didnt finish it .. changed the subject lol... hmm i shoul read the post all over again and check that out.... but i wont .. most likely i will cut/delete things from it and i dont want to.
4 Its the first time i do this thing .. never did i put my thoughts and feelings on a "piece of paper" not to mention to let the whole internet know about them... but i think this is the last resort ... and wont affect my paranoia status too much knowin that i wont post it under my real info.
Thats all... atleast for now ..Have a nice day and let it rain with useful replies