Confrontation...how to, when you know your doomed anyway

Hi,

I have a different view. Sy you don't have to pick one over the other. You dont have to even place who is the priority here, your gf or your parents.

They are visiting you for 2 weeks and they are your parents so of course you have to accommodate them while they are there and soon enough they will be gone and you and your gf will have your life back. SO I think your gf needs to be more understanding of your relationship with your parents. And you can tell them to leave their condescending talks to when they are away from your house because it embarrasses you in front of your gf.

When my in-laws come to visit us I know that the visit will pass soon I try to not get so frustrated and just do what I have to do.

Good Luck.

Sy you don't have to pick one over the other. You dont have to even place who is the priority here, your gf or your parents.

They are visiting you for 2 weeks and they are your parents so of course you have to accommodate them while they are there and soon enough they will be gone and you and your gf will have your life back. SO I think your gf needs to be more understanding of your relationship with your parents.

He has to choose and fast, because otherwise the relationship is over. It might drag on for a while but I wouldn't bet on it. I think he should sieze the day and tell his parents exactly what's what and leave nothing unsaid.

bigdeal_1 wrote:Hi,

I have a different view. Sy you don't have to pick one over the other. You dont have to even place who is the priority here, your gf or your parents.

They are visiting you for 2 weeks and they are your parents so of course you have to accommodate them while they are there and soon enough they will be gone and you and your gf will have your life back. SO I think your gf needs to be more understanding of your relationship with your parents. And you can tell them to leave their condescending talks to when they are away from your house because it embarrasses you in front of your gf.

When my in-laws come to visit us I know that the visit will pass soon I try to not get so frustrated and just do what I have to do.

Good Luck.

Thanks for your reply. Seemed like they picked it up on their own, because after my gf told me about that behavier the didnt do it any more. The rest of the visit went well. I got to spend time with them, and my gf seemed to be okay with their visit. She even organized a out-day with fishing and forestwalk.

The day of leaving, my parents expressed however their dislike of my partner. And my gf complaing about them, just makes it no wonder why it was kind of a bumpy vistit. Since they all seem to have issues with eachother...

You missed your chance.

verty wrote:You missed your chance.

Ok, your bugging me now...

Short and sweet: It is impossible to make my parents change their ways.

A confrontation is useless. I have in the past confronted them, and it was the first time I made my mother cry..and it was only about a little thing.

There is no way in hell I am going to try to fix things between my parents and my gf by confrontations and demands. That would only make things much worse. Trust me, I have experience...

I defend my gf if my parents in anyway disrespect her, either when she is there or not. But I am carefull not to get involved in any discussion. I am an adult man, and they have only to accept my choice. Same goes to my gf..she can complain as much as she likes, and I do understand alot of her frustrations. I know my parents are far from perfect. But I am going to spend time with them when there is an oppertunity to do so.

...this post triggered a different memory. Their was one x-mas where me and my gf had been through a really rough patch. And she asked me to stay with her and not visit my parents as planned. She even told me at the time that she was pregnant. I had been mislead and fooled about other matters, and was not convinced that that was the truth. End of the story was that I visited my family and we brooke up for 3-4 weeks. When I came back to town we got back together again. Wonder if there isn`t some bad seeds growing from then, when my parents were visiting this time..