Any advice? Best friend slept with my sister.

I am not sure whether this is right forum for me to take something off my chest that is bothering me for a while. I am 27 year old guy. I have 21 year old younger sister, she is very beautiful.

I was feeling very proud that I have such a insanely beautiful sister. In the beginning, I enjoyed the attention she was getting after she reached her puberty; I noticed that many people started staring her as if they want to smash her. I started noticing lust in the eyes of many people while they were checking her out. That is when I started becoming uncomfortable.

Day by day, it became hard for me to deal with beauty of my sister. Whenever, me & my sister go together to any places and if there are group of 4-5 boys then someone would make inappropriate vulgar comment s." This type of comments would raise my blood pressure but I did not confront any one and eventually got used to it & started ignoring it.

We are from India so travelling is a nightmare. Busses and trains are extremely crowded. While travelling in a crowded train or in bus, boys would take advantage of rush and try to be touchy with her. The way many people would see her as if she is totally naked in front of them. Time to time these experiences created anxiety in me and my sister's beauty became a nightmare for me to handle.


One of my colleagues helped me a lot in my job. He was 26 year old, one year younger than me. We became a good friend and he became almost a part of my family. He was transferred to another office which was very close to where I live. I introduced my sister to him.

My sister was to work as an intern in some company to get practical experience as a part of her university degree. My friend put up the word with his Manager and got my sister to work as a trainee under him. Initially, everything appeared fine between my friend and sister.

One day, I felt sick at work. I took half day leave at work and came home. During the day time, there is no one at my home. When I came inside my house, i heard some moaning sound from my sister’s bedroom. I became curious so I just went towards her bedroom. The door was partially closed.

When I saw inside, I was almost fainted. My sister & my best buddy were totally compromised position. I don’t intend to give graphic details of what I saw there but you can imagine what type of humiliation I went through as an elder brother when I saw my sisters in that position. It was a trauma to me.

I lost my temper while watching my sisters live sex show. Both were totally unaware of my presence. I separated him from my sister & slapped him on his face. He did not fight with me. He said sorry. He wore all his clothes & went away.

Anyway, after I became calm & composed, I realised that whatever happened between them was a result of two consenting adults wanted to get naked and have good time by adult fun. I opened the topic with my sister. My sister was extremely upset with me for slapping my friends. I said sorry that melted her. After probing few questions, she gradually told me that she has not yet lost her virginity but was meant to happen the day they were caught by me.

I severed my ties with my friend. We never talked again. I advised my sister to stay away from my friend. She simply kept quiet. My sister finished her degree and took the job in my company. She was working for my friend. He was her boss. My friend got promotion where as I was working at same position.

After six months, I got a call from my family female doctor. My doctor told me that my sister is pregnant and she wants to terminate the pregnancy. Since she is 3 months pregnant, it is risky and needs my consent for abortion. In India risky abortion of unmarried girls, requires family members consent. I was just devastated. I had no choice so i gave consent. Abortion was carried out safely.

Then I had a talk with my sister & what I learnt this time spins my head. It turned out that my friend took virginity of my sister just next day of me catching him in bed with my sister. My slapping his face did not deter my friend to shag my sister next day. They both were in relations, and the when my sister got job under him, he shared my sister with Managing Director of our company & got promotion.

However, unfortunately, he did not just stop there. He shared her with two senior managers other two companies as a bribe to win very huge contract. Obviously, my sister got promotion as a Chief Public Liaison officer within 4 months.

My sister was so stupid that she did not bother using condom while getting laid with these guys. So, far within 6 months, 4 people including my friend have preyed on my sisters and robed her youth.

I tried to persuade her that this is sophisticated prostitution therefore just stop it. However, she is not in any mood to listen to me. I requested her to see a counsellor but she is refusing that too. The guys pamper her to the extent that she is addicted to this lifestyle.

However, she promised me to use condom all the time from now on. Although she refused to meet counsellor, I had to see counsellor to get my stress under control. My counsellor told me that there is nothing I can do to stop my sister from her sexual adventures. She is enjoying the attention she is getting because of her beauty and enjoying easy promotion and easy money she is getting easily by parting her legs and makes herself available for pleasuring the men. My counsellor said further that I should find consolation for the fact that my best buddy had intercourse with my sister and not any evil minded random guy. She explained, that my friend is unmarried; sexually starved, sexually frustrated guy. Therefore, he would want some consenting female desperately for his sexual outlet. My sister is fully adult girl, Her raging hormones would make her curious to experiment with her sexuality.. As per her, being best friend of a guy and a loving brother, I should have empathy for my friends & my sister’s sexual needs & should be supportive and not protective.

As it is when I saw her in compromised position, I am not able to get rid of that scene as it keeps flashing in my mind all the time. I am not able to get past the naked images of my sister & on top of that when I came to know about her pregnancy, it is forcing me to visualise how the guys may have screwed her . The mere thought of what is in store for her as a result of she becoming comfort women for company is another nightmare..

Therefore, i was getting used to the idea of my sister sleeping with my friend but I am struggling to cope up with the fact that my best friend made her whore for his personal benefit and company benefit..

Although I am suffering it silently, I want to reflect on what went wrong. Is there a possibility of thinking outside the box & stop her from spreading her legs for some benefit?

Rakesh88 -

I don't have any advice personally.

I will write that cultural norms are a factor, and few of us are entirely immune from being influenced by the culture we grew up in. On top of that, when it comes to sex, people tend to have very strong feelings about what is right/wrong, okay/not-okay.

Point being? You feel what you feel though I expect you're not going to receive any conclusive advice on what to do. This forum caters to posters from all over the world, who come from different cultures, with their own beliefs about sex. For example the culture I grew up in would view your sister as an adult, capable (and responsible) for making her own decisions. People sometimes make decisions they regret, but that's universal and not specific to sex.

From that point of view you could talk to her about your concerns, but still as an adult she will make her own choices, for better or worse. Someone else from a different cultural or personal background is likely to have a very different point of view though.

The sex between your sister and your friend isn't really a thing. The older brother in me would demand he treat her nice and respect her. She isn't your property, but you care for her and you have every right to tell your friend he should treat her right.

The prostitution and ethical problems of using sex for promotions in unrelated business is a serious issue. I wouldn't stand for that. And the second the friend started letting/using your sister in dangerous positions where she could get any number of diseases and pregnancy was overkill. At that point I would have probably beaten any "friend" to the brink of death over that. I don't know how it is in India, but here that's massively illegal as well.

xdude wrote:Rakesh88 -

I don't have any advice personally.

I will write that cultural norms are a factor, and few of us are entirely immune from being influenced by the culture we grew up in. On top of that, when it comes to sex, people tend to have very strong feelings about what is right/wrong, okay/not-okay.

Point being? You feel what you feel though I expect you're not going to receive any conclusive advice on what to do. This forum caters to posters from all over the world, who come from different cultures, with their own beliefs about sex. For example the culture I grew up in would view your sister as an adult, capable (and responsible) for making her own decisions. People sometimes make decisions they regret, but that's universal and not specific to sex.

From that point of view you could talk to her about your concerns, but still as an adult she will make her own choices, for better or worse. Someone else from a different cultural or personal background is likely to have a very different point of view though.

Thanks for the nice reply. You are spot on when you said about culture. In India, father & brother are supposed to be protective in the family. Girls are expected to remain virgin before their marriage. Whether that is reality is not is another question but everygirl has to atleast pretend that they are virgin. Things are changing a bit now but they are in still in minority. Arranged marriage is a still a norm in India where elder brother and father has to find suitable boy/men for daughter/sister. If the girl has any any affair, it severely affects her marriage prospects. Society expects that girls should be married before the age of 30. Even 30 is considered very late marriage in many communities in India & it has a shame factor attached to it.

Under this circumstances, brother and father has to be vigilant on sister/ daughters private life so that her marriage prospects are not affected badly. It is just the way it is. Hence, from western culture point of view, it looks very odd and controlling nature etc. as it is hard for them to comprehand what the heck is this.

Thanks once again.

Ashlar wrote:The sex between your sister and your friend isn't really a thing. The older brother in me would demand he treat her nice and respect her. She isn't your property, but you care for her and you have every right to tell your friend he should treat her right.

The prostitution and ethical problems of using sex for promotions in unrelated business is a serious issue. I wouldn't stand for that. And the second the friend started letting/using your sister in dangerous positions where she could get any number of diseases and pregnancy was overkill. At that point I would have probably beaten any "friend" to the brink of death over that. I don't know how it is in India, but here that's massively illegal as well.

Thanks for reply.
Prostitution is illegal in India as well but this is grey area because even though we know it is prostitution, it is hard to take any action for any one because a) Sexual favour from my sister is done for promotions and other favours in returns & it is consensual. b) She does it selectively so it is not like Police can raid brothel and arrest someone responsible. It is possible to take action, if she was made to do this against her will but her mind is now totally corrupted & she does not want to stop it. That is an issue.

Rakesh88 -

I agree, and part of the reason I replied right away. You live in a different culture, and the expectations (and risks/costs associated with diverging from the norm) are different than western cultures. Even in western cultures though many people have very strong feelings about sex, what is okay, what is not.

When I saw inside, I was almost fainted. My sister & my best buddy were totally compromised position. I don’t intend to give graphic details of what I saw there but you can imagine what type of humiliation I went through as an elder brother when I saw my sisters in that position. It was a trauma to me.

Yes, I can. It's traumatizing for us to watch the people we're invested in act in ways that are seemingly vulgar or undignified. What makes it worse is that she seems to have lost all inhibition.

After probing few questions, she gradually told me that she has not yet lost her virginity but was meant to happen the day they were caught by me.

I don't really believe her considering that she got pregnant 6 months later, but it doesn't really matter now whether she was telling the truth or not.

Although I am suffering it silently, I want to reflect on what went wrong. Is there a possibility of thinking outside the box & stop her from spreading her legs for some benefit?

Unfortunately, no. The only thing that will take care of that is aging. Rest assured that there will come a time when she no longer receives the male attention that she receives now. If you want to protect your feelings over this period, my advice is to look the other way and push your sister out of your mind because it will continue to bother you if you keep ruminating over the woman your sister has become.

Kabuhi wrote:

When I saw inside, I was almost fainted. My sister & my best buddy were totally compromised position. I don’t intend to give graphic details of what I saw there but you can imagine what type of humiliation I went through as an elder brother when I saw my sisters in that position. It was a trauma to me.

Yes, I can. It's traumatizing for us to watch the people we're invested in act in ways that are seemingly vulgar or undignified. What makes it worse is that she seems to have lost all inhibition.

After probing few questions, she gradually told me that she has not yet lost her virginity but was meant to happen the day they were caught by me.

I don't really believe her considering that she got pregnant 6 months later, but it doesn't really matter now whether she was telling the truth or not.

Although I am suffering it silently, I want to reflect on what went wrong. Is there a possibility of thinking outside the box & stop her from spreading her legs for some benefit?

Unfortunately, no. The only thing that will take care of that is aging. Rest assured that there will come a time when she no longer receives the male attention that she receives now. If you want to protect your feelings over this period, my advice is to look the other way and push your sister out of your mind because it will continue to bother you if you keep ruminating over the woman your sister has become.

Thanks for the nice analysis.
I agree with your observations and assessment. I know for sure that my sister had lost all inhibitions as she was equally responsive in a bed. That probably indicates that the affair must be going for long time as you suggested.
Most of the people also believe that there is nothing I can do about & probably should get over it.