Do any women like male loners?

If it means anything I'm right up there with you buddy.
I have a Asperger's syndrome which is a form of mild autism, and by nature
I am loner with an ongoing basket of mental health issues.

I have friend circles as such but often find myself more with a close knit group of friends.
Which in truth is probably only about 3 people.
The other people are acquaintances who I wouldent nescessarily go out of my way to buy a pint for.

Women are mystical creatures, each are different in their own ways.
In life there are two types of wolves; pack wolves and lone Wolves.

A pack wolf will gladly accept their place in the pack, may this be by forms of dominance or submission. They will most likely be charasmatic and charming. They will most likely be weak, when singled out. They don't really have any relevant thought process unless the thought is valued by the group. This type will spend their lives trying to maintain their place in the social hierarchy and will often be weak in thought and slow to adapt.
Their thoughts are their own and will spend their life trying to be something their not.


A lone wolf on the other hand. They are wise, quick to learn. They see the world from a different perspective to the pack wolf. Whilst yearning for social intervention they don't necessarily strive for it.
They have years of experience making their own decisions. They combat life like a warrior with their fair share of battle scars. Their thought process is their own. They have tonnes of initiative and drive and when they set their eyes on a meal, there realistic.
They don't rely on textbook tatics to bring down their prey unlike a pack wolf. They do what they know best and that is staying strong and surviving.
They'll bring down their prey in a creative way.

Now back to the question in hand..... It solely depends on the woman really.
If she's superficial and cannot think for herself, then it's most probably a no go.

If she craves individuality and wants a man who can think for themselves then it's a most definite yes!!! They would go for a loner.
Keep your eyes on the prize and like all lone wolves. You'll catch your prey every time

TrapGod wrote:The majority of women do not, it is a huge red flag for most when someone has no friends. The thoughts that would go through most womens minds would be what is wrong with him? Why does he have friends? Someone smarter would know it is probably Schizoid, Asperger's, or even Sociopathy and thus realize you would not be good for a relationship. The women who are attracted to loners always have something wrong with them as well.

Social status affects your dating value a lot.

You are right but those aren't the only reasons women don't like loners, a lot of women want a guy to have a whole social world of his own so that she can enter into that world and guess what? Stir up drama and play out her own ego games in a new social circle and she really likes it if your male friends have girlfriends she can compete with over who wears more expensive clothes, who has richer parents, etc...and even better if she can have sex with their boyfriends to hurt them and ultimately this hurts you too. If your male friends are better looking than you are, she will cheat on you with them in a heartbeat. And unfortunately men are so afraid of thinking "gay" thoughts that they shun even considering if their male friends are attractive so they blindly acquire good looking male friends who will steal their girlfriends never realizing that women find these guys more desirable than him.

So in conclusion what he isn't understanding is that to women a larger social circle means more drama and more social manipulation and power games she can engage in against others. And what is more exciting to the average woman than this? Absolutely nothing.

Bert Parsnips wrote:Do any women like male loners?

I'll admit I haven't read any of the other replies but the answer is YES YES YES. I pretty much am exclusively attracted to loners, for whatever reason.

Gosh, that's a really hard question to answer. First, you didn't post your age. This info is relevant because the definition of what a 40 year old male loner is differs dramatically from that of a 16 year old male loner. From what you said about "groups" and "getting a girlfriend", I will assume you are in middle school or high school.
But your question was about women, not girls. If you are a teen, then it doesn't matter whether you are accepted in a group or prefer solitude; adult women will not be interested in you unless they have serious emotional disorders or past emotional trauma - it is best not to get involved with anyone older than you. Forget about women. As a teen boy, this will be the only time in your life you will be able to date a cute teen girl and not get arrested.
As far as girls go, it really depends on both the girl in question, and you. If you are an anti-social misanthrope, then girls will probably not like you very much.
Personally, I preferred (pro-social) 'loners' when I was a teen girl, because I could relate to them. I didn't have any friends and I felt completely comfortable in solitude. Still, I liked people and I was friendly and caring - and I took an interest in boys. I just didn't want to get involved in complicated high-pressure social dynamics.
The good thing about being a male loner is that there are relatively few of you, so your social value automatically goes up. Also, a prospective girlfriend will not need to compete with a bunch of guys for YOUR attention, and she will not need to put up with your obnoxious male friends who keep trying to get HER attention. (At least that's how I viewed it when I was a teen girl.)
IOW, not only is it possible for you to get a girlfriend, when dealing with certain girls it might even be an advantage.
However, being a male loner will not excuse you from a female's expectations that a boyfriend live up to basic standards of good character. I know my standards were very high (they still are - I'm 33). My teen boyfriend had schizoid, was overweight, awkward and had no friends. I liked him a lot. He was also considerate and respectful towards me, honest with me, hardworking, and loyal. (I got some serious looks of confusion from other boys when they asked me if I was just "screwing with his head" and I explained that I wasn't, I genuinely liked him. I was breaking the rules of what girls were supposed to be attracted to.)
Things change as one gets older, though. Sadly, most of the men who would interest me, now live as hermits in dirty apts on Social Security and have all but given up on women.
I didn't mean to make this post all about me, but I have little insight to share on the experiences of others. I can only speak for myself. I hope some of this helps. Please correct me if I have miscalculated your age.

Very interesting conversation is going here and I had read whole thread .

Thexena wrote:I am an extremely shy woman and I actually prefer a man who is also shy and a loner. (They say opposites attract but I honestly don't like any man who thinks being the center of attention is a good way to boost his already inflated ego) I tend to go for the geeks and nerds who enjoy quiet time watching tv or joins me playing board games and can read a book while I also read.

I feel more comfortable with a loner too. Someone who doesn't constantly need to outshine me to make a point.

I'm 20 years old shy virgin male and have similar situation. I have a bunch of friends or a lot of people seems to know me only when I'm in college but from all of them I really have 2 or 3 who I can really trust and meet outside of college. And being said that for me come easily to speak with people from class but from outside of the class doesn't work so well. So basically to start conversation with me the other person needs to start it with me and keep it going so mainly I'm burned when it comes to girls. I'm very often see a girl in library who I would like to speak with but I can't , it's just doesn't work for me.

I had that situation where I was looking at her in the library one day (one computer pod away) for about 30 seconds, she has noticed me looked at me and smiled and I guess that was because she wanted to be polite. Not sure tho. So as I said I'm burned.

I had one girlfriend in the past and it was alright to the moment where she decided to dump me for no reason after 2 weeks. Moving deeply with It I have also problems with expressing my feelings due to shyness as I'm very shy for example to kiss a girl in public place or near friends also I could get red on face when friends asking me intimate or sensitive questions.

Moving to a point where my sociolazing going down is that my whole life basically looks like this
School\College -> Comes Back To Home -> Do various activities and stay in home whole day after day. You can say that I'm a Loner or Geek as basically I have spend whole my life in home, mostly reading books, watching TV alone in my room or gaining more knowledge about IT. I really stay at home whole days and when I do I just do above activities or just educate myself more in IT field as everything what they offer in college I already know. I occasionally will go to gym/swimming pool or sauna but not very often. I don't really like going out to night clubs or bars as I don't enjoy it and that's it. Also I listen to music which giving kick to dance however that doesn't mean I want to go clubbing as I just enjoy that type of music. My classmate once said that's weird that I listen to music which gives you hype to dance but don't want to go clubbing.

When someone invites me to go to some event or party which doesn't happen at all I could go there etc but I don't feel comfortable hanging around as I'm very shy and not very speakable to strangers.

Sometimes I can be very stubborn until I have tried something and I'm sure it didn't work out. Another example is when some of my classmate are very seriously messing with me around on my nerves or just hurt me then I just don't speak with them at all or give any gesture sings for certain amount of time. Usually when they say Hello or ask me something I ignore them in silent. Sorry I don't try to be rude here but if you get hurt you will do the same thing as I done.

At the moment I try only to look for serious relationship which could last years or forever. Yeah I know it's seems impossible. Also I really don't care how does opposite sex look like or if they have Asperger or something similar as long as we both happy to be in our relationship. Tho I like girls who are shy as it's cute .

Now all that being said I just feel very very very lonely and sometimes feel so worthless due to my shyness problems which giving me thoughts that I won't get any girlfriend as I don't deserve any and I will stay alone to end of my life which is quiet scary . I slowly also start believing that the another half of me doesn't exist.

I have enough of being very very very lonely and I would give everything for that START which could enlight and shine my world and vice versa.

P.S I don't know if it's just me or do I seriously have something like Asperger Syndrome.

BTW I also like Hinata she's a great character in Naruto .

I don't mind a guy who doesn't have friends and doesn't go out all the time,that's actually the only kind I'd go for,but he still has to have his pride and be ready to kick other guys asses(literally and figuratively) whenever it's needed.
He has to have some aggression and desire to be dominant.
That's only my opinion though,I know many girls and women like guys who are generally less socially dominant and more sensitive.

Haaaa, must disagree; I could care less whether or not a guy is willing to prove his dominance over all the other assholes in the world.

But if I'm being honest, there is a part of me that relates to what you're saying. I am turned on by the the idea of a guy taking control of me a bit: pulling me to him and kissing me and touching me without asking; slipping under the covers in the dark without offering any explanation. I guess it's not PC to say it, but our ancestors were animals! Nothing is more attractive or erotic than when a man makes me feel like a woman.

Nope, not all women. While it's sometimes normal for women (or anyone) to be leery of a loner (they wonder, why are they alone? Why doesn't anyone else want to hang out with them? Why don't they want to hang out with anyone else? Is there something wrong with them? etc.), it's sometimes attractive in men. To me, it means they're independent, don't need anyone to be entertained, and just like to do their own thing. The street goes both ways, however, and can lead a girl to wonder if that strong/stubborn-minded "I do what I want/don't need others" mentality will rub off on them and make them feel miserable.

LazyEyeCrazyI wrote:Nope, not all women. While it's sometimes normal for women (or anyone) to be leery of a loner (they wonder, why are they alone? Why doesn't anyone else want to hang out with them? Why don't they want to hang out with anyone else? Is there something wrong with them? etc.), it's sometimes attractive in men. To me, it means they're independent, don't need anyone to be entertained, and just like to do their own thing. The street goes both ways, however, and can lead a girl to wonder if that strong/stubborn-minded "I do what I want/don't need others" mentality will rub off on them and make them feel miserable.

Not true IMO. Just because you are a Loner doesn't mean you are miserable. I have friends. Real good friends. Its not many(5)... but I am labelled a loner because im not the type of person to be stuck in my friends house all day or on facebook talking caca all day etc etc. Im just doing my thing. And they are doing theirs. But that love and respect is there ALWAYS. Many think that to be good friends you have to be together all day everyday with your friends. In my honest opinion the weak ones are those that need friends around all day wether its online or physically to feel good. Don't get me wrong when we get together its a ball. But the NEED part like most people these days are the weak to me. What happens if one day tjat person finds themselves without those friends around?

Brassmonkey wrote:Just because you are a Loner doesn't mean you are miserable.

This is true of me, for the most part. I have spent most of my life alone (I'm 49). I am completely aware of the fact that if I want to be with someone (dating or married) it is ME who must make the effort. I do have some very good friends, and I do know some single women that I could approach if I wanted to.

I imagine a loner who wants to be with someone isn't really a loner, or at least they wont be a loner for long (if they desire to meet someone).

On the other hand, I have known many people who suffer depression or any number of things that makes it hard for them to socialize, and thus meet someone or sustain a long term relationship. I feel bad for them. It is human to feel (and satisfy) the need to nurture and be nurtured. This is what people normally think "loner" means. I don't see it that way.

I think the more salient question would be, are there any women (or men, I guess), who likes someone who prefers very little social life beyond the relationship? In other words two true loners who come together. I guess that answer is simply - yes.

At least I hope so.

Otter.