help with possible borderline personality disorder

Hi, I've recently begun a relationship with a man whose best friend and former business partner, I believe, has borderline personality disorder. They have a platonic "Will & Grace" kind of relationship (he is straight, she is homosexual) and she has been living with him for the past six months, however her behavior has been increasingly erratic over the past year... Because they were in business together, she is financially as well as emotionally dependent on him. He has spoken with a therapist about the best way to disentangle himself from her life, but the therapist's only advice was to get a court order and put his friend on the street, which he is understandably very reluctant to do. The therapist, incidentally, was the first to diagnose the friend as potentially having BPD; having read over the DSM IV criteria myself, it does seem to fit in almost every way. Does anyone have an idea of the best approach for distancing himself from this woman, or resources that might be available to provide support for either or both of them.

It is hard to run off a bpd. Unless they want to be. Then they have no problem letting YOU go. It has to be their idea or they develope abandonment and rejection issues and can haunt your life and make it a living hell.

So this needs to be done with a lot of thought.

If you come to bpd forum you might get more responses, as we understand, in the mean time I'll try to find some resources for you.

I don't understand how this therapist has the criteria to dx someone they have never seen or talked to. It's hard enough with the bpd there. That is pretty unprofessional in my opinion.