I can't get rid of my obsession and I don't know why!

My boyfriend and I have been dating over 10 months now and as college students we lived together basically in the dorms. Now -- summer has come and all the sudden I'm not seeing him everyday. I'm starting to freak out when he's out with other people and that he's only coming to see me 3 times a week. I told him today that if he really loved me he'd want to see me more and I realize now that this was unfair to say but I don't know why I couldn't see that before. Everytime he goes out with people, I feel like I am left out, even when it's with people I don't know. I know this is strange and it's not healthy and it is definitely hurting our relationship but for some reason I can't stop being upset with him when he goes out. I've tried explaining this to him but he keeps saying he needs some alone time and some time with others. To me this is like him saying that I'm too much for him and that he doesn't want to be around me. I'm getting sick to my stomach when he's out and hasn't called me and I don't know what's going on. Any suggestions?!? please and thank you

~Worried and Obsessed~

Hi....I want to help!
Trust me I have been there before and the best thing to do is to let him just be and ignore him.
I have given this advice to friends before and the best remedy to a stressful relationship/situation is to throw the boy off. My bestfriend and her man are together now all becaue she ignored his absent behavior. She realized after 4 attempts that the only way to get his attention is to not try at all. Men hate being ignored the second they are and know they have officially lost out...they freak. So just ignore him ...really act like u fell off the face of the earth and let him believe u r gone forever. He will come back and beg for u. I have witnessed this before and it is so hard to do but just remember why men want u when they cant have u or u dont like them...its the same action.
Lemme know the outcome and we will discuss the next step.

Hope this helps and please reply if u need more answers.

Take Care

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Very true, it works.
When a man feels smothered they run, if you hold on loosely, they do miss you and come around.

once I was told, "It's not my fault you don't have a life" ouch. So I got one in a hurry, and gained his respect. The relationship eventually desolved, but it was my choice.

Thank you both so much -- I appreciate the advice and It is going to be hard but I'll definitely apply it. Thank you

Yeah, it's hard, I have to admit I still called my answering every 10 min to check my messages, but I thought to myself. "does he miss me as much as I do him?" and just let myself believe he did. Little by little it became easier.

Come back anytime and much luck to you. truely