A hole in my life.

Ever since I was born, I always acted like myself, I always went outside the house looking nice. But girls were never ever attracted to me. I am 16 and in High School obviously now... Every single day I see jocks and preps holding girls they don't even give a $#%^ about. But everytime I like a girl, the girl always ends up hating me to hell even if the girl doesn't really know me. When I'm at school, all of a sudden I'm calm and confident, but no luck. Sometimes when I see 2 people going out walking together a scold and move to the other side of the hallway I'm walking in. I know that uglyness is not always an issue, I've seen some fat ugly #####& get some nice ass chicks. And I go home alone, nothing I can do, only thinking what my problem could be. I never worried about it until now really, but it's like some force is causing this to happen. Because this attitude I have now I NEVER have in school or around public. Girls see right through me, when some obnoxious #######1 likes a girl, bam, they go out and everything is perfect. I swear to god, it's annoying and really old. And I would rather die and burn in hell then grow up the next 60 years of my life dealing with this day by day. And it's all starting to change my point of view on girls, and that's something I don't want.
What is the deal?

No girl will ever listen to me, they look at me for a split second and look away even if I'm talking very strong and robust like. But they listen to anyone else in the world. This issue is starting to make me sick, literaly.
And since I never had a girl in my life, the "want" is becoming very powerful and I don't want to end some porn freak alone for the rest of his life and ends up shooting himself while no one cares to remember.

Hey Zippy,

I am a 34 yr old woman that has survived highschool! LOL Have you ever heard that if you ARE desperate to be with a girl a girl can sence it. Its like you have a sign on your forhead. I know you don't but girls and guys can pick up this energy that you have. Whether or not you show them you are confident it doesn't matter until you truely are confident. The other "radar of I REALLY want you" is stronger then your act or portrayl.

I would work on yourself...focus your energy on working out and looking and feeling better for WHEN the RIGHT girl for you that will listen to your every word...comes into your life. You cant just look for her everywhere...you will scare the others. So enjoy your youth and freedom from a girl. And have fun with MANY girls...LOVE YOURSELF and THEY WILL LOVE YOU!!!!

YOU CAN DO IT! Good Luck!

Life does get easier....remember...its not what happens to you it how you handle it that makes the difference in EVERYTHING!

SERIOUSLY, I NEVER BELIEVED IT, BUT IT IS TRUE. IT ALL HAPPENS WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT. I AM 25 NOW AND BELIEVE IT OR NOT, MARRIED TO THE GUY I HAD THE BIGGEST CRUSH ON IN HIGH SCHOOL. YES, IT IS TRUE. BUT THAT ISN'T HOW IT IS FOR EVERYBODY. I MEAN, FOR INSTANCE, MY SISTER IS IN HER SECOND YEAR OF COLLEGE AND SHE JUST STARTED DATING HER FIRST REAL BOYFRIEND. IT ISN'T THAT NOBODY WAS ATTRACTED TO HER, AND TRUST ME, SHE WAS AS DEPRESSED AS YOU OVER THE SUBJECT, BUT IS WAS MORE OF THE ATTITUDE THING. MY SISTER HAS THIS PROBLEM WITH BEING POSSITIVE AND SHOW EMOTION. BUT, AS SOON AS SHE FIGURED IT OUT, THINGS HAPPENED.

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. THE FACT THAT YOU CAN ASK THIS QUESTION TELLS ME THAT YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON. THERE IS THAT ONE SPECIAL GIRL, YOU JUST HAVEN'T LOOKED IN THE RIGHT PLACE, AND MAYBE INSTEAD OF THEM LOOKING AT YOU, YOU SHOULD BE LOOKING AT THEM. DON'T BE SHY, BECAUSE IF I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNEW NOW, WELL, I AM SURE YOU KNOW THAT FAMOUS SAYING... AND GUESS WHAT, IT IS TRUE!

I can't change my image about myself my just thinking to myself "feel better about yourself" I don't know how.

alright look...

All people climb the neverending wall dont let them tell you any different... the shell on the outside is only to protect them from others... they are just as confused as you....

The difference for some is in viewing problems in a different way... There are Challenges in Life not problems....

Most people think change is hard.. The trick is to do what you have to do to get it done, and think that it will be EASY...

If you think your life has to be hard and full of problems it will be because you have created it so...

If you think that you will encounter challenges in life... that you will learn from, and that you will handle them easily... YOU WILL.

It is your will that creates and shapes your reality...

Everything is as hard or easy as you make it...

That is why you have to Love yourself first so that you may help others....

There is confusion in your life because you have put it there for a reason...

Find the reason...

Respect yourself to respect others and vica versa...

Give to receive and dont expect anything...

But most of all know that if you ask you will receive an answer...

Ask for... and you shall receive...

Desparation and neediness is not a trait any female is looking for.. theyre looking for a male that gets what he wants.

They want someone that carries a smile, and has an aura of a positive vibe... someone that they can be with and feel good around... you get me?

Girls are already emotional... they dont need more of that. Girls will look for things they dont have if you catch my drift.

Take more time away for yourself... do what you enjoy doing... life weights, run, play sports.... do something... Think about the type of guys in this world that do have women in their lives...

You will find that most males exercise regularly, play sports, etc.

When youre walking around, dont be looking for females, the less you look, they more they will try to get your attention.

Women are like cats they hunt with skill and elegance.. they are arrogant about it... Men are like dogs... when we see the cat we chase it... the best way to catch a cat is to ignore it... it will come to you when you pay it no attention.

Remember women biologically search for the best mate. Youre not suppose to need females, they are suppose to need you... OK?

Confidence alone will take you far... once you start seeing it, so will she.

Honestly, I always went for guys who weren't (or who pretended not to be) very interested in girls. I don't mean they were gay, I mean they were just more into something else- baseball, skateboarding, video games... like a hobby or whatever. This was the case for most of my girlfriends, as well.

Maybe you should try something new or turn your focus toward something that you are already interested in (females excluded). If you lose your desperation over girls, you will come across as more confident. You will seem more interesting if you get into something. You might meet a girl who is... gasp... interested in the same thing as you, which would be much better in the long run than finding just any girl who is willing to go out with you... and if all else fails, you will be distracted and find that girls really aren't the most important thing in the world!

Also, girls are really just as clueless as you. I went out with several guys in school, but they were only the ones who pursued me. I always thought the ones I was interested in didn't know I existed. Having been out of high school now for 7 years (I'm an ancient 24 year old now), I have run into a lot of those guys- and suprise, suprise, a lot of them liked me, too. There might be girls crushing on you right now and you don't even know it.

I know it's hard, but don't despair over it.

This is what irritates me the most.

Every single girl I try to talk to seems real nice. But once they meet, all their backed up hate releases out on me. So for my pointless 16 years of my life, I never really saw the true kindness of any female being.

Hmmm... well, I don't really know what you are talking about. The only "backed up hate" I have is for a few of my (female) coworkers Maybe it's the type of girls you are talking to. Maybe you are drawn to girls with a chip on their shoulder and a bad attitude- or maybe they are drawn to you... or maybe you are just perceiving cruelty and hatred where it is not.

Listen. Way back, I was never like I was now. Before I just never gave a $#%^ about anything and girls still treated me like this. The case is, I always know about the girl even when I never talked to her. I mean hey, if you can't talk to her you got to find alternate ways of knowing about her. But when we finally meet face to face, the automatic hatred comes out from the most random outside force ever. Now I resort to never ever talking to girls because the outcome has been the same for my whole life. It sucks, but it works.

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