Did I do the right thing?

A girl, initiated flirting. I was busy and not really looking for that kind of thing at the time, but it made me take noitce. Then I discovered a smart girl with a wonderful sense of humor. I recipricated.

A player at work took noitce. It is very important for him to be alpha male with the ladies even though he is married. He laid it on thick and won her over before I even know what happened. After he scored, he came to me in private and said, "I ****** her and there is nothing you can do about it."

She later woke up to what a jerk he was, returned to me and asked if I still cared. I did, but said no. She was quite hurt.

Now, she is married to someone else and pregnant with their first child. I feel bad.

I would never had told her no, if I had known. She knew the player was married and had two small girls. He braiged to both of us about having affairs with married women, to show what a stud he was and stroke his ego. This didn't deter her at all, so I figured she was a girl who couldn't respect or care for anyone. I had seen her drink till she passes out and she had a DWI and a small child from a previous relationship.

Sometimes, I feel bad not giving her a chance to explain. But she was pretty callus in rejecting me and then the married player thing just made me feel she was no good. Was I wrong? Should I have given her a chance to explain?

You can do whatever you want regarding your romantic life, but I certainly don't think you're in the wrong for doing what you did. If I was in the same situation you were in and had feelings of sexual attraction for this woman, I might have led her on and tried to have sex with her once or twice first and then rejected her. I wouldn't waste time playing any relationship games though meaning if I'd be somewhat aggressive and end it if I don't get what I want by a certain period of time. Rejecting her right off the bat is a solid approach too though, don't get me wrong. There's NO WAY I would seriously consider a long-term relationship with her if that's what you want to know. Not after pulling that stunt.

I would never had told her no, if I had known.

Had you known what?

I had seen her drink till she passes out and she had a DWI and a small child from a previous relationship.

She doesn't seem all that intelligent to me. There are all the making of a fairly stupid woman right there. DWI, check!

Single mother, check!

Easy target for playboy, check!