Embarrassing Picture

Hello,

A few months ago I discovered a picture of an acquaintance that was quite embarrassing as the flash had gone through her top, so her entire breast (including her nipple) was exposed. Someone else had posted the pic and as I know the acquaintance is quite shy I knew she wouldn't be happy about it. After some days I decided to write her a letter so she could remove the picture in case it disturbed her.

She never replied to the letter. It's okay, I understand. But a few days ago I met her in town. We talked shortly but she kept her distance and none of us mentioned the letter. I'm afraid it is because she is embarrassed about the whole situation which, of course, I understand. Now I'm wondering if this embarrassment will go away without me doing anything or should I let her know that she doesn't have to feel embarrassed around me? I will probably always remind her of that embarrassing picture.

I sure hope you can give me some advice as I truly like her and I'd hate it if she'd keep her distance forever.

Thanks a lot!

Perhaps just a passing comment, but nothing too serious? If it were me, I would definitely be extremely embarrassed and it would probably effect how I react to you for a little while. Maybe making a lighthearted joke about it would ease the tension a bit?

Cheze2 wrote:Perhaps just a passing comment, but nothing too serious? If it were me, I would definitely be extremely embarrassed and it would probably effect how I react to you for a little while. Maybe making a lighthearted joke about it would ease the tension a bit?

Yes I can probably try that. I'm wondering now if I did the right thing by writing her that letter.

I'm sure you know the analogy about the messenger always getting shot? You did her a favour, but it's likely that she associates you with the embarrassment and feels slightly awkward. If you can act naturally towards her when you see her, judging for yourself whether it's appropriate or not to bring this up, then in time her feelings of embarrassment will lessen. Just be yourself when you see her. It can be difficult to know whether bringing this up would reignite the feelings of embarrassment, or whether by ignoring the incident would be ignoring the proverbial elephant in the room. One thing is fairly certain, as long as you remember this incident, and keep it as a big thing in your mind, you will continue to feel awkward when you're with her, and she will pick up on this awkwardness. Perhaps it may be better to put it to the back of your mind, knowing that in the bigger scheme of things it's not terribly important as we all have embarrassing incidents in our lives that we'd rather forget. By putting it into this kind of perspective, it will no longer be such a huge issue, and you'll find that you'll act more naturally when you're around her anyway.

Yes, that has crossed my mind too. I'll try to let it go. Thanks!

Think the embarassed one is you more than her. If she wore a top in which her breast is visible she must not care too much about it. Be like if a guy's buldge were visible, would we be embarassed?