Decode this exboyfriend behavior for me please!

He broke up with me, and then made a big show about "how happy he was now he was without me". He continually made comments like, "never again!", "I'm free!", and "OMG, no way will I ever get back with her". He basically exclaimed these comments all REALLY LOUD in front of me to his friends so that I would hear. I felt like I was being treated like an unwanted, disgusting leper by him.


Then I find out from his friends that he's wanted to get back together with me for like 5 months. ??


What was the purpose of all that?

He's doing this to get a reaction and is acting childishly, without a thought about how this may affect you. If he can act this inconsiderately and immaturely after a break up, do you really think he'd be good relationship material if you were to get back together.

Relationships end all the time, and of course one or the other person in the relationship instigates the break up. This doesn't give them the right to gloat about it, or to publicly humiliate the other person.

This isn't really decoding as much as it is making observations.

The first thing that jumps out is that he's still mentally preoccupied with thoughts of you. He clearly hasn't moved on.

The second thing that jumps is that he's rather juvenile and that he's also somewhat manipulative. He's trying to manipulate your emotions.