Please help me.

hello world.
I am going through a very frustrating situation, please help me for sake of GOD. I likes a girl from 8 months we both studies in university together, and are very good friends. From beginning i liked her a lot but while i was deciding to propose her she introduces an ex of her who have came back in her life, so i decided to just be her friend and that's what i did. in meantime she occasionally keeps telling me about her dating, chats and other fun she have with her BF, and i listens with a jealous heart but with friendly face.. last month she had brake up with her BF and i was like a mediator in b/w like (she asked me to do) i went to return gifts that guy has given, to college of her BF. I supported her a lot, in fact i acted like i am there for her 24/7 and she anticipated that. last week i proposed her in a friendly laugh and she started crying and said why didn't you said before, etc.. I some how convinced her that i had the feelings from the time when we met. we discussed that a lot on call/ texts (as we're having exam break) during this she just kept saying i am a very ordinary girl, a guy has just rejected me, i am worthless, you too leave me, you deserve a girl with no past you are a great guy..etc. somehow we decided to talk in university next day (uni. was starting on that day), I agreed but at night she said meet at hotel or other place so no one can interrupt, i agreed, i picked her we met at a hotel i said to her tell me if i am forcing you, you can leave this relationship we will be friends as we were. she said if it was like that i would have not came today, and again said why didn't you said earlier, i hold her hand and tried to convince her but she was stuck at point that i had inner guilt and i can't be in relationship. I asked alright decide yes or NO she said i like you and want a guy like you in my life, I can't reject you but i can't accept. i tried my best but she did not said yes or no. later at night i received her text "you are a very nice guy but i can't decide now, if we are destined to meet we'll but for now we can't don't take me wrong, i am not at all rejecting you, but i can't say yes". I said how much time you need she said probably a year, a month but can't say...i text her that alright i take this as a NO, we'll be friends from now i won't talk on love again, and she changed the topic to studies in reply.
All i want to ask you guys, what's going on, If she dislikes me than why is she not saying NO, even though i am assuring her that we'll be friends as we were. she is also accepting and saying that no one can love her like me, but......?

what i think is, she just simply have no interest, as she's not giving me a time, a solid response
what to do? Please help.

i would like to add some other details, today we were studying case study on car in class, and she named a car and said i liked that car because my ex (mentioned his name) had the same, there was a celebrity photo on that page and she said i liked this guy because he has same hairs as my ex had.
seriously, that's really annoying, i am suspecting that she's in touch with that guy,
please reply

It reads to me like you've been friend-zoned. It's time to stop talking to this girl (especially since she keeps talking about her exes to you) and move on to the next one in my opinion. Stop talking to her serves two functions: one, you're spending less time and energy focusing on a girl who has no intention to be with you and, two, it opens a small possibility to escape the friend-zone because she's forced to action or risk losing you.

If she harbors some affection for you, there's a nonzero chance that she'll reach out to you to re-establish your current relationship. I wouldn't re-establish because of function number one, you'd be spending more time and energy focusing on a girl who has no intention to be with you. Limiting contact for me would really be more about number one than number two. I'd give up on dating this girl honestly, but escaping the friend-zone isn't a nonzero possibility.

Kabuhi wrote:It reads to me like you've been friend-zoned. It's time to stop talking to this girl (especially since she keeps talking about her exes to you) and move on to the next one in my opinion. Stop talking to her serves two functions: one, you're spending less time and energy focusing on a girl who has no intention to be with you and, two, it opens a small possibility to escape the friend-zone because she's forced to action or risk losing you.

If she harbors some affection for you, there's a nonzero chance that she'll reach out to you to re-establish your current relationship. I wouldn't re-establish because of function number one, you'd be spending more time and energy focusing on a girl who has no intention to be with you. Limiting contact for me would really be more about number one than number two. I'd give up on dating this girl honestly, but escaping the friend-zone isn't a nonzero possibility.

You were right. yesterday we talked again, and she said she likes me, i am a perfect guy she wants a man like me in her life, (as husband, she said) then i said then give us a chance to understand each other, she said i can't decide, i am not ready, i really loved my ex and it's not easy for me to just forget and move on, it's really hard for me..then i said, what should i do as i proposed the girl whom i liked and she's not going to be mine, she said don't take me wrong, i said you would have said NO when i first said these things to you she said, i don't wanted to, i am not saying no, actually i have never thought of you as a BF you were my best friend you didn't expressed these feelings before, i said it comes to me as a NO, instead acknowledging this she said we should maintain some distance as friends are speaking a lot about us, and i can't afford any scandal atm. i said alright i'll try to be your friend but their will be gap as u wants it, she stayed silent and conversation turned to academics. Now today we saw each other talked a bit, and i tried to ignore her by being with my friends and she seems happy as well, thanks @kabuhi for help. I don't know where this relation might go, i just have to forget her i think?

jffr wrote:You were right. yesterday we talked again, and she said she likes me, i am a perfect guy she wants a man like me in her life, (as husband, she said) then i said then give us a chance to understand each other, she said i can't decide, i am not ready, i really loved my ex and it's not easy for me to just forget and move on, it's really hard for me..then i said, what should i do as i proposed the girl whom i liked and she's not going to be mine, she said don't take me wrong, i said you would have said NO when i first said these things to you she said, i don't wanted to, i am not saying no, actually i have never thought of you as a BF you were my best friend you didn't expressed these feelings before, i said it comes to me as a NO, instead acknowledging this she said we should maintain some distance as friends are speaking a lot about us, and i can't afford any scandal atm. i said alright i'll try to be your friend but their will be gap as u wants it, she stayed silent and conversation turned to academics. Now today we saw each other talked a bit, and i tried to ignore her by being with my friends and she seems happy as well, thanks @kabuhi for help. I don't know where this relation might go, i just have to forget her i think?

Yeah. Forget her, find another girl, and stop ruminating on a future relationship with her. Most likely, there's nothing that's going to happen once you've been friend-zoned. There's probably not going to be a romantic relationship with this girl so you move on. I like the way you handled it by the way.

To avoid becoming friend-zoned in the future, avoid talking to women about their feelings and offering solace. Changing the subject or even just bluntly stating that you're not interested in talking about her feelings is a better option than actually talking about her feelings. Talking about feelings and offering solace is what a girl's female friends are for, not her male friends or boyfriend.